To think this is a rude thing to say?

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I've been a SAHM for the last 5 years. I went back to Uni last year and have just been offered a job doing the thing that I went back to Uni to do. It involves supporting people in the community/nursing.

Was telling family member about it, how it was great hours, fits in well with the DC as they don't have to do full time hours at after school club.

Famiy member replies "that's the benefit because if you had a good job you'd probably never see them".

Um. It IS a good job? It might not be sitting at a desk --earning money for doing not very much like I used to do, but it is a good job. I haven't presented it as a crap job.

Clearly he thinks it is a crap job, well that's his perrogative but would you really say that out loud? FFS, he didn't even realise what he'd said and carried on "what's the point of having kids if you never see them" etc etc.

Just. GRRR.

I know it says more about him than me, but really, did he mean to be so rude? Would this just wash over you or would you think he was rude?

I don't think anyone is that stupid, I think it's actually a nasty dig to keep you in your place. And he probably doesn't like hearing about your successes. Don't waste your energy on him, but next time he says something like that you should just calmly ask him to elaborate. Congratulations on your new job, sounds perfect!

Ps - my FIL says very similar things and is also sexist and has a whole host of other unsavoury views so I may be being a bit tough on him, but it sounds very familiar!

That's interesting lilykiwi, thanks.