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WIBU to wear this ring before the wedding?

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ZombieJenna · 29/05/2015 07:20

DP and I are getting married in 3 weeks time and I have a dilemma (small and unimportant in the grand scheme of things but hey). DM has given me my nan's wedding ring and DP has a new ring engraved with our names and the wedding date.

DP wanted to get me a piece of jewellery as he hadn't bought my wedding ring and after much deliberation bought me a ring (with the same engraving as his wedding ring) for the other hand (I usually wear my nan's eternity ring on my right hand). This will essentially be my eternity ring.

He's collecting it today and says I can have it and wear it when I get home tonight. His reasoning being that it's not yellow gold, it's not a wedding ring and it's not on my left hand.

His argument makes perfect sense and I really want to see this ring he's bought and show it off to my friends. However the superstitious part of me says it might be bad luck to wear it before the wedding what with the date being on it and all (like turning the calendar over early).

So tell me, wise Mumsnetters, should I be restrained and wait 3 weeks or should I give into temptation and wear my new ring now?

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Happyringo · 29/05/2015 07:24

If it kind of matches your DPs, I think I would wait until he starts wearing his too. But that's not superstition, just personal preference! Sorry that's no help at all is it lol...

msgrinch · 29/05/2015 07:34

Just wear it. It's only a ring. Confused

gofuckyourself · 29/05/2015 08:16

Seriously Confused it's just a bloody ring. Its not a wedding ring, it's not superstitious, it's not cursed and it won't affect your wedding whether you wear it or not.
I love how you said you want to show it off to your friends haha what are you 12? Surely you are more excited because your fiancé bought you a beautiful gift...hmm maybe not Wink

OhEmGeee · 29/05/2015 08:18

What's it not being yellow gold got to do with anything?

IsItStupid · 29/05/2015 08:22

Do what you like! It's only three weeks, so it's not long to wait if you want to.

SoupDragon · 29/05/2015 08:22

Are you usually that rude, Go ?

QuiteLikely5 · 29/05/2015 08:24

Wearing this ring early will not impact on whether you divorce or not.

I promise.

TiredAssShowgirl · 29/05/2015 08:25

I'd wait! I get where you are coming from, especially in the stress and heightened emotions of just before your wedding. its not a wedding ring, but a ring for your wedding - I'd probably start wearing it on honeymoon.

PtolemysNeedle · 29/05/2015 08:25

I'd wait. I know it's exciting, but you're a grown up and you are capable of containing yourself! I think if it feels a little wrong then it would take away a little bit of the enjoyment, and I'm sure that's not the feeling you're hoping to achieve.

You have a whole lifetime ahead of you to enjoy wearing your ring, so give it the right start and wait for your wedding.

Tizwailor · 29/05/2015 08:34

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musicalendorphins2 · 29/05/2015 08:40

I would wait to wear it, your wedding is only 3 weeks away.

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ZombieJenna · 29/05/2015 09:12

Thank you all for your replies. Maybe I should have put 'lighthearted' in the title? I never intended to give the impression I was huddled in a corner, wracked with indecision and imagining all sorts of disaster because I contemplated wearing a ring before the big day. To reassure you all, I'm not 12, am an adult (if not a grown up) and never peek at my Christmas presents! Wink

Go that's rather harsh - I'm excited about getting a beautiful gift from my DP, which he has had made for me and I want to show it off to my friends. What's wrong with that?

OhEmGee our wedding rings (and my engagement ring) are yellow gold.

To everyone saying "Wait" and "it's only 3 weeks": That was pretty much the position I took when DP and I discussed it last night. But his alternate perspective on it made me wonder what others thought & I turned to Mumsnet to canvass opinion. Tizwailor I was thinking that might be a good compromise Smile

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ScarlettDarling · 29/05/2015 10:05

op don't pay any attention to any of the nasty, snippy replies.
Some people don't have anything better to do than be unkind to people on the Internet.

You sound really excited and really happy, and so you should be! I remember feeling exactly the same way in the run up to my wedding, it's a really special time.

It's completely up to you when you decide to wear your new ring. I kind of agree with your dp...it's not a wedding ring, so why wait until your wedding day to wear it? And yes, if you wear it now, you do get to show it off a bit! If you wait until the wedding day, everyone will be wanting to see the "real" wedding ring, and your lovely gift won't get any attention!

What a lovely dilemma to have though! Hope everything goes well on the big day!

Tizwailor · 29/05/2015 10:08

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