Aibu to think my life has gone tits up !!

[whatisforteamum]

Dreadful week of dying Df getting an infection that took 2 gps to sort out his bone pain and vomiting all the while I worked though I went in 3 hrs late sunday and stayed 3 hrs later,Dh went golfing then got paralytic falling up and downstairs at 130 am keeping us awake then slee
ping it off for a whole day and night.
I have been offering shopping and help to DM and took some cake round for them and thankfully df has turned the corner and his temp came down.
I spoke to dm and df had had his injections today then the subject of my dd coming home this weekend from seeing her bf came up.
Apparentley his parents have decided to drop dd here and pop in as they live 4 hrs away.I cant be here as im working 12 hr day..
My dm said just dont work i cant as we are short staffed and have to give 1 months notice for w end off and someone else has it,then she went into meltdown shouting at me that I should meet the parents and never meet pple !!
When I pointed out if I leave we end up on dhs 14k a yr all 4 of us she said that's not what she meant properly having a go at me for working!!
Then I get a message that next week I only have 1 1/2 days work what on earth is happening to my lovely life what with dhs personality change since his heart attack and bad back then dd still looking for work AAARRGGH not sure where to turn as I was thinking of renting a room while I sort my head out with regards to the marriage now I have even less support and more people putting the boot in.:(

Poor you, sounds like you have a lot going on. With regards to meeting dd's bf's parents can't your dh meet with them this time, explain you have to work? He sounds a bit unsupportive going out and getting drunk while you deal with ill df and work

yes dh often has to do things alone because of thee nature of my job and I am looking around and applied for another my Dm hasn't worked and doesn't understand a job is a job as DF earned good money,She should nt shout at me for working when I have no choice and no one else minds as ive been doing it 11 yrs.DH apologised what with his ED and general lack of support im at my wits end .

I need to grow a backbone and stick up for myself

then today i get a phone call about an interview for a lot more money than i am on so onwards and upwards hopefully :)

What lovely news after how crap you were feeling yesterday

Good luck with the interview, I hope DH starts to support you properly

What a nice bit of news re the interview. Fingers crossed for
You

Good luck! Sounds like you deserve it.

First of all, if there are any problems within your marriage, don't give up your job! I hope you do well at the interview and, if it's a job you'd like, you get the job.

Your mum sounds like she is very stressed because of your dad's illness and is taking it out on you. If that's the case and she's normally a normal, nice woman, then you can cut her some slack (though she's completely out of order) but if this is what she's like, then you have to detach in some way. Can you see your dad without seeing her?

As for your daughter's boyfriend's parents, your daughter should explain to them that you're having a very stressful time with your dad being ill; they should be ok with that.

I come across mums being down on adult daughters for working quite a bit, you aren't alone. Often a bit slyly, eg comment about it to other peeps, like me, eg school pick up for example when they are doing pick up as gran when Mum is at work. Interestingly, both from mums who did not work (do they dissaprove? jealous? both maybe?), and those who did (and perhaps feel guilty and/or hated it??). Or maybe they just all feel taken for granted/knackered. Sorry, this is wandering off topic a bit but wanted to say it seems quite a common response.

But crazy to shout at someone for supporting her family, and women almost all through time and across the world work economically as well as doing the SAHM stuff, so she is DBU.

Good luck with the interview, and hope your DF continues to mend

My DM was a sahm she fostered and adpted children and babies.Recently she found out she has no pension in her own name (the law has changed now for foster carers).
Dm used to have to budget the family allowance though now her and df are comfortable and good for them.
I dont have any say in the week for week rota and dh and i have always done our own child care working 84 hers some weeks without leaving dcs when they were young and NEVER phoning in sick.
My dm has said she couldve made more of her job before family life took over.She can be unreasonable and accussed my dsis of asking after df looking for inheritance !! so dsis has cut her off again.
DM also battles cancer and is obviuosly worried sick about DF and his limited time and she has no escape as she cant drive due to loosing some sight in one eye a few yrs ago.

I will still contact them as i am not a spiteful person i was just upset that i was being told off for something beyond my control.Dh has done the whole to do list and admitted i am under alot of pressure.Interview for me and my dd for college i hope both get good news :) :)

Thank you all for replying .

for you.
You've got loads going on and I think you should be admired for coping with this all so well.

and and a glass of for you. Really hope the interview goes well and you get the job! Hopefully things will improve for you.