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AIBU-to think this disabled bay should not have been allocated

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parkingisnotaright · 28/05/2015 15:15

I'm a lurker who rarely posts and its my first thread, have name changed as this is fairly identifying! I also know that parking posts are particularly irritating to many, but this has been upsetting/ annoying me for almost a year. And I wish to know if I'm being unreasonable or not, and if its something I should let slide. There's a fair bit of back story to it, so be patient, I don't want to drip feed.
Bought house just over 2 years ago, neighbours across road asked us to park outside their house rather than on our side of the road, we did. Forward 18 months, and I was heavily pregnant. My DH and i discussed it and decided that we would start parking on our side of the road. Neither house opposite us has a car, one has a driveway the other does not.
We have one car, but kindly someone lent us one has I became slightly less mobile the bigger I got. At about 8 months pregnant we were in bed one morning at aprox 0930 when there was a knock at the door, DH answered and the neighbours daughter was demanding that we moved borrowed car as she had to be able to park outside her parents house. Stating that she must be able to park there as she had elderly parents, and a disabled son. I got up feeling rather furious, and went out to move the car. Outside i found her chatting to the other neighbour saying that she'd just told us that our parking wasn't on, especially with 2 cars. Her parents were already in the car, I got into the car to move it, and she drove off with her parents.
My DH and I both felt that she was bullying us, and that we would continue to park outside our house, but I continued to feel intimidated and nervous that she would come back to the door.
We had been having work done to the house and had tradesman parked outside the house for a considerable time over the summer. On two occasions that we were made aware of by two separate tradesmen, she had parked her car outside of her parents and blocked the road. On one occasion she was heard to tell another motorist that hers was a mobility vehicle and she would not be moving her car.
I was concerned for her parents wellbeing, but felt reassured when i saw them cutting the grass, walking into town and taking in the wheelie bins for all of the surrounding houses.
Fast forward to this week when we returned from holiday to find a disabled bay marked outside their house effectively meaning we can no longer park outside our house. Since we came back, her car has not been there. I have seen her parents out, and about, so no dramatic deterioration has occurred during our holiday.
Am I being unreasonable to feel that this allocated bay makes a mockery of the system, and effectively it is being used to ensure that they have a convenient family space outside their house. I know that it is a public road, and whenever her car is there usually during the school day ( whilst her son is at school) we park on the same side as she is. And am i being unreasonable to question the councils installation of the space, and whether the household merits it??

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MrsDeVere · 28/05/2015 18:42

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Elisheva · 28/05/2015 18:43

In the city where I live you are not entitled to a bay if there is no car in the household, they are not given just for taxi/carer use.

BagsyThisName · 28/05/2015 18:47

No mrs bob Dylan, I think there is only one space now instead of 2 because of the position of the disabled space.

OP I think you need to draw a map so people understand!

DarthVadersTailor · 28/05/2015 18:58

Unless a disabled bay is signed saying that it's for blue badge holders then any road user can legally park there, white lining on the road isn't enough for it to be enforced.

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Tapasfairy · 28/05/2015 19:22

If the neighbours are not disabled I don't think the space should be outside the house.

We have a disabled space outside school for a pupil. Lots of the grandparents use it. ( I know they can but they are not in a wheelchair) it took flipping years to get it.

Tapasfairy · 28/05/2015 19:25

Just read above about mobility cars, I'd report her, she must be using their disability car.

Moln · 28/05/2015 19:27

Do you know why you were asked to park on their side of the road?

Don't get that!

SoupDragon · 28/05/2015 19:30

So, the disabled bay is outside your house and is across your current "driveway" (which is currently not wide enough for a car) yet it is also outside their house which is over the road...? Confused

MrsDeVere · 28/05/2015 19:40

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BagsyThisName · 28/05/2015 19:46

Soup dragon I think it is a very narrow road so although the space is opposite it means they wouldn't be able to turn out of a driveway that was opposite the parking space.

(OP can I repeat my request for a map?)

AnyoneForTennis · 28/05/2015 19:46

Ok, re read the op

It's a narrow road.... Parking on one side only
Daughters son Is disabled

Daughter couldn't get people to park as she wanted so she got the bb bay

19lottie82 · 28/05/2015 20:17

These disabled parking spaces outside people's home do not require a blue badge. Legally anyone can park in them. They are for guidance only.

MrsDeVere · 28/05/2015 20:54

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19lottie82 · 28/05/2015 21:47

Sorry MrsDeVere - If there are road markings only (no formal signage) then the space will be of an advisory nature only. Councils don't allocate anything more than these outside personal residences Following an application from the occupant.

MrsDeVere · 28/05/2015 21:50

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worridmum · 28/05/2015 22:12

MrsDevre is correct some LA do enforce someones car was towed from a marked by by my house last week (they went on holiday and parked their without a Blue badge and house owners reported)

Samcro · 28/05/2015 22:29

if they have a pole and sign they are enforceable.
no sign and pole they are not.
but you have to be all kinds of shite to park in one with out BB or disability.

Fluffcake · 28/05/2015 22:31

Neighbours a few doors down had a bay put outside their house. A council planning permission sign went up on a lamp post a few weeks before it was painted. I would phone your local council op. They should be able to tell you if legal or not and what LA rules are to get one.

deste · 28/05/2015 22:46

Neighbour two doors down has a disabled child and was given a space outside her house. The two houses opposite can no longer park in front of their houses because the road would be blocked.

MrsBobDylan · 28/05/2015 22:46

This is my theory which I'm shite at explaining. Before the bb bay appeared, neighbour asked op to park on their side of the road which op did until she got pregnant then she began parking on her side of the road. I think this is because there was space for two cars on the neighbours side but only space for one car on op's side. When op started parking on her side, because the road is narrow, the neighbours' daughter had nowhere to pull in when she collected her parents. So, they have applied for a bb bay which is big so takes up two spaces on neighbours side and leaves no parking space on op's side.

Fuck, I know I'm being hugely dull here.Grin if it's not that I give up and freely admit to not having a clue.

Op should check bb bay is a real one though-am Shock at the number of pps who have experience of fake ones.

Eva50 · 28/05/2015 22:53

I think the neighbour asked OP to park on their side so that her daughter could also park on their side thus being closer to unload her disabled son. If OP parks on her own side the daughter also has to park there as there is not room to park on both sides of the road.

madamginger · 28/05/2015 23:02

I know a mum from school who bought a house with a bay outside, it had a sign on a post infront of her garden wall. She just pulled the sign off and parked her car there Shock
The bay was used by the previous owner but still Hmm
Oh and the council weren't bothered in the slightest

MrsDeVere · 29/05/2015 09:30

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IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 29/05/2015 09:47

I'd query it with the council OP, it might be correct but the daughter might be pulling a fast one.

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