To think I should have been told before arriving

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I took DD (7 mo) to see my friend and her DD (4) two days ago. Prior to visiting we'd had a conversation on the phone to arrange times and had a general chat for a few minutes.

I arrived and two minutes after walking through the door, friend's DD was coughing all over DD. My friend asked her DD to cover her mouth when she coughs, then turned to me and said "She's got a cold."

AIBU to think she should have mentioned this before I went round there? I now have a snotty, crying baby who's feeling very sorry for herself and will now only sleep upright on me. I've had very little sleep and have had to cancel plans. I'm aware the lack of sleep could be clouding my judgement so happy to be told IABU (and a bit PFB )

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To those avoiding chickenpox are you going to get your dcs immunised against it or leave them to catch it as adults?

Its a common illness and extremely contagious. In some ways better to get it over with when they won't remember it.

It as a pain your dc being ill. But they do get ill. And they generally recover very quickly.

I imagine once your dd is a bit older and constantly snotty you will look back on this and realise you were being a teeny bit pfb.

But your DF wasn't to know if your DD would get a sniffle or a full blown cold?

Would you have actually not gone to see her if you had known her DD had a cold?

YANBU in my opinion. I have a 11 month old and probably being PFB. Hosted a baby group round my house and one of the Mum's baby had a nasty cough and had been quite unwell. It took out the whole group of us, babies and adults! My family had the virus for 3 weeks! Was not happy at all.

Thurlow- I'm not sure. In general I probably would have asked how her DD was and judged from there. If I'd known it was a bad cold I would choose to stay away. I know one child's reaction to a virus can vary to another child's though.

On this particular occasion I would have rescheduled the visit because I was supposed to visit my DSis and newborn DNephew tomorrow but now can't as I don't want to take DD and have no-one to look after her.

We've had contact with babies with a little sniffle before and DD has had a much worse cold. And vice versa. We also had contact with H,F&M- that baby had 2 little blisters, DD had the worst case our dr had ever seen apparently. You never know what reaction your child is going to have, so can't avoid everyone with a sniffle.