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AIBU?

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to think this is totally dickish behaviour?

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AlmondAmy · 27/05/2015 23:52

Ex and I are currently in the court system re: contact with our dd who's 7. He hasn't seen or asked about her since January when I had to stop contact on advice of SS. In court three weeks ago he demanded interim contact before cafcass file their report; I refused direct contact but offered indirect contact in the form of phone calls/letters/emails. He said he'd take this but still wanted direct interim contact so we're back in court next week.

Since the last court date we've sent three emails, photos, two letters and have called three times. Dd has had no response. He's trying to say I'm alienating dd so I've kept proof of posting, phone records and delivery reports of emails for court. Aibu to think he is being a dick by not contacting dd and that you can't onlybe iinterested in your child if you can physically see them?

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VelvetRose · 27/05/2015 23:55

I agree with you wholeheartedly. Well done for keeping the proof that you've sent the letters and messages.

Fatmomma99 · 27/05/2015 23:58

Yes, it's totally dickish.

Wanker!

JoanHickson · 28/05/2015 00:00

This is not uncommon. I hope you don't have a cafcass officer who believes him. Well done keeping the evidence.

YsabellStoHelit · 28/05/2015 00:05

Good job keeping the evidence. Hope he grows a pair and starts being a decent father or f's off and leaves you in peace

JoanHickson · 28/05/2015 00:09

This going to court nonsense is posturing to his ringside seat viewers and a power trip.

AnyoneForTennis · 28/05/2015 00:14

The interim contact would've been for HIM to maintain contact not you! You've done well

My ex got zero contact for doing exactly this as well as repeatedly not turning up for court.

AlmondAmy · 28/05/2015 23:16

Yes the court order said it's for me to facilitate, not make, contact. No doubt he'll accuse me of dodging calls/hiding post.

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DoJo · 28/05/2015 23:25

You are doing more than he deserves and I am guessing that is because you are putting your daughter first no matter how much it galls you to have to pander to his twattishness. She will appreciate that in years to come and you will always be able to look her in the eye and tell her that you did whatever you could to make sure she had her father in her life in an appropriate manner. Focus on that, not on him and the stupid mind games he is playing - if he doesn't make the effort now, when it counts, then he will have to live with himself when she grows up into an awesome human being and he has to look on from the sidelines knowing that there is no place for him in her life.

flora717 · 29/05/2015 17:03

For reasons of sanity. I have not read the thread.
1st sleepover held for DD1 tonight. Everything is ready. I just want to survive.

flora717 · 29/05/2015 17:04

And that's the wrong thread (sorry)

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