To want to scream 'stop looking at me!'

[DiscoMoo]

I'm forever being watched and it's driving me insane. While we sit and watch TV in the evening, my DP will turn away from the screen to LOOK at me. For no apparent reason. My mother does the same, we'll be watching TV together and I'll be aware that she's LOOKING at me from across the room. When I ask them why they're doing it, they have no reason - they're not trying to get my attention, I'm not doing anything interesting or strange, and I'm not so beautiful that they can't help but gaze upon my wondrous face.

Now my (female) colleague has started doing it - again, no apparent reason. I've checked my nose for stray snot and my mouth for unnoticed food. She doesn't want my attention.

STOP LOOKING AT ME!

And breathe.

Arf @ lookyfuckers

Good one

DH does this. So does DDog. Drives me bonkers well, when DH does it anyway

It comes from being beloved.
My DD suffers from this, and sometimes rants against it. When you are the source of delight for everyone around you, it becomes a bit wearing. You take it in your stride as a baby, toddler, even later - but after 30 it just makes you squirm.

Luckily I don't have a dog, that would tip me over the edge! Although to be fair the dog is probably just waiting to catch you eating.

Thankfully no one has yet followed me into the shower to LOOK at me.

DP does this, will just start looking at me, and when i say "what?" he replies with "nothing, just looking at you"

Its bloody annoying!

My mother does this. It drives me insane! I've never had anyone else but her do it though.

I'm with you OP I hate people looking at me while we're watching telly. I agree they do it to get validation, to check you're laughing at the same bits, to "share" the experience. DP especially does it when I'm double-screening because he wants to check I'm looking. But he looks at his phone often enough, so I should be allowed to get my ipad and check important matters such as "what else has Stannis Baratheon been in?" :)

I had a flatmate once who was terrible for it, I had to actually stop watching telly with her as every time there was a joke or intense moment she would LOOK at me (with either a big grin or an OMG face) and I had to LOOK back at her to confirm that yes indeed, we were both watching the same thing.

With DP I tend to go "what!? what!? until he stops.

My mum tends to stare at me if partner and I have mentioned something and she wants me to go into more detail (but not look so nosy). So I just carry on watching the TV , or whatever I was doing - if she's that desperate to know she can ask !!

We used to love watching DF watch TV when we were younger. He'd grin inanely and nod, woe betide if he caught us watching though

Stare right back, see who blinks first.

ummm as embarrassing as this is to say, I have a catch in my throat and make a clicking sound.
It drives them nuts. so I really try hard not to do it.
Yes, I get stared at.

Could you be breathing loudly?

If we're watching a comedy, my bf looks at me to see if I'm laughing everytime he finds something funny. It's unnerving. In the past I've resorted to sliding down in my chair and putting a big pillow next to my face so he can't see me.

Sometimes I have days where I feel hyper self conscious and awkward and it feels like people are looking at me more / staring more intently but probably it's all in my head. It's horrible feeling all exposed and vulnerable. I definitely started having less and less of these days when I started taking Citalopram.

One of my class mates was like this. I'd sense I was being watched, or catch her out of the corner of my eye, and when I'd made eye contact with her she'd grin or wink. She'd often tell me she liked something I'd said in class so maybe it was hero worship. She was a bit odd though.

My dog does it when it gets near his tea time. Comes over and stares at me. It's like Jedi mind control!

Are they definitely looking at you, not just in your direction?
I sometimes spin my chair away from my computer screen to think/take a screen break and while staring into space doing that I happen to be pointing roughly towards where DH often sits - it freaks him out if I sit and 'stare at him' but I often don't even register he is there if doing that as I start thinking before I spin, if you see what I mean.

Aw it's because they love you!
I hope that's the reason as I get this too - even the dog won't stop staring

No, YANBU in the slightest.

I am cursed with 'resting bitch face'. Which means that I look narky when my face is at rest (which is most of the time, obviously; I'm not walking around pulling Bonnie Langford showbiz faces).

My resting bitch face causes my mother to stare at me CONSTANTLY, so that she can obsess about whether I am unhappy, which will apparently cause her to worry/have a heart attack/sleepless nights etc. I haven't lived at home for 25 years, but she still does it. I'm not going to sit there on visits like a Cheshire Cat. I don't think it's good for your jaws.

My husband does the same thing: he stares at me and says, "something's wrong. What is it?" then refuses to believe me when I say that I'm fine. Because I must be, you know, hiding a secret sorrow or something. I'm not. I'm just watching telly and giving my face a rest.

At times like this I have often been tempted to say, "just stop staring at me, will you?"

Are you possibly a heavy breather? I stare at my 20yr old cousin sometimes because his breathing is so heavy and it catches so I look at him to see if he notices; he doesn't. Then he catches me looking at him and give me evils. Fascinating stuff.

So they admit to doing it but don't say/know why?

Apparently I "swallow" too loudly. Even just swallowing saliva, let alone having a cup of tea. This causes certain people to look at me because of the "noise" once noticed it cannot be un-noticed so I'm told. Taking two or more sips of drink leads to "oooh you were thirsty, gulping that down!" In the office. I have considered just becoming dehydrated but have decided instead to think "fuck it, it's not like I can get a new one- not my problem"

Oh I think Nettle has it! I too have resting bitch face. It must be concern that I'm secretly plotting their murders.

It is weird, because you can feel when someone is looking at you - not just a glance, but actually LOOKING at you. It's bloody unnerving.

I shall try to change my resting face to an inane grin and see if that changes anything!