To be fed up trying to help my friend?

[RagingJellyBean]

I'm growing more & more tired with my friend.

On a daily basis (for a running 2-3 weeks) she tells me how her OH has annoyed her, upset her, been selfish, shouted at her children, shouted at her, argued with her, controlled her, emotionally abused her.

I've tried everything. I've asked if I can help her with leaving, I've asked if she has friends/family she can stay with, I've offered her money, I've given helpful advice... But time & time again after weeks of being unhappy she just tells me she has no intentions of leaving solely for her kids sake - then she'll try and give me the impression that everything is happy & he has changed - this lasts a week, then the cycle starts again.

I fully understand this is her life - and if she doesn't want to leave she doesn't have to leave. But AIBU to find it exhausting speaking to her when she goes through a 2-3 week period of telling me every day how much he upsets her? I've tried my best but she won't listen to any of my advice and I'm slowly running out of things to reply with, but I couldn't face ignoring her because I know she really does get miserable.

Help!?

Read up on "Drama Triangle".

It's a YNBU from me. And then what everyone else has said.

Good luck

YNBU. It's draining and exhausting . I'd take a step back.

I have a friend like this. Unhappy in her marriage and life in general for years. She always spends a proportion of the time we spend together complaining about things. I've honestly run out of advice to offer her now and I tell her so - I just say, I don't know what else to say, it wouldn't do for me but only you can live your life. She'll never leave him and I accept that. She just likes to have a moan and get it off her chest.

Yanbu. Do you have to talk to her every day?

I'd have a break from it myself, it must be terribly boring if nothing else! You don't have to answer your phone if she calls or texts you.

I was like this, my friend finally said that if I wasn't prepared to do anything about my situation then she no longer wanted to hear about it.
It was the push I needed to get out of my relationship and I'm now remarried.
It might be the push she needs?

I have a friend whoconstantly moans about her partner. Friends have all offered the same advice and offered support but she doesn't want to leave him as she doesn't want to be alone. Now, we let her have her rant then move onto another subject. She knows we will be there for her if she does leave but we cannot be there for her to go on and on, then never follow through with anything - it is always the same issues so there is nothing we can say that hasn't been said already.