to remove all of the fun stuff from my DD's bedroom until she tidies it up?

[Tinklewinkle]

I'm not overly fussed about the state of bedrooms, but DD1 (13) is taking things to a new low.

There's dirty washing mixed in with clean washing (she has a dirty washing basket but just flings it all over the floor), dirty plates and cups, sweet wrappers, yoghurt pots and used make up wipes everywhere, and a film of make up powder on every surface

I'm usually of the close the door on it persuasion, but I've been asking for her dirty washing since the weekend and there's more cups in her room than there are in the kitchen cupboard so I've removed her telly and cut the wifi to her phone.

DH thinks I'm picking at her, and if she wants to live like a pig then it's her look out. I agree to a certain extent but her school uniform still needs washing and we're running out of cups

True - she's still in school though and financially dependent on her parents so whether you call it an allowance or pocket money it's still free cash with conditions attached. His terms to set and none of my business. My kids will have a list of chores a yard long by then.