To wonder what time is it reasonable for kids to stop playing football

[balletnotlacrosse]

I've just seen a row going on while I was out for a walk. Some kids were still out playing football on the green, a woman had obviously come out and asked them to stop, and a mother was giving her grief. "They're only playing, the green's for everyone" etc etc

Aibu to think nearly ten o'clock is a perfectly reasonable time to ask kids to stop playing football outside people's houses? Just wondering, because I've often been tempted to go out myself and ask them to call it a night after about 9pm.

Personally I would probably stop them by around 9.30pm. But we don't have early bedtimes here. 9pm schooldays, but in holidays we def shift to dhs greek timings with bedtimes even later so at 9-10pm we are often walking through parks, playing tennis or having late picnics in summer outside. It's light until 11pm in summer, we work late all year (7pm ish), so it's our time a few weeks a year to enjoy the weather and spend time with the children.

We are usually in hyde park / green park / Wimbledon Park as live central London, and they are always full after 9pm in July/ August.

before I'd even read the post properly I was thinking about 10pm. I think the mother wbu to start a conflict over it, but I don't think the kids wbu to want a late evening game of football. As others have said its rarely light enough to be a constant problem.

It's half term pixie

Then they should be out sweeping chimneys.

Andrew: behave yourself.

It was me who mentioned 7.30.

I told me own children to pipe down (they were roaring and screaming) but not to come in, as there are very young children living in the houses they were roaring and screaming right next to.

Also it's not half term here.

Where my sister lives, the late night football starts around Easter holiday time and continues until the kids go back to school in late August.
It's not just the noise of the football that annoys her, it's the loud shouting and roaring and cursing etc. She has to listen to a lot of that all evening and by 9pm she's really had enough.

I do think parents have to show some consideration for people who live around greens. 9pm is not an unreasonable time for children to be expected to keep the noise down.

I think that's part of the problem. Some parents think 'oh I only let them stay out that late now and again. It's no big deal'. But they don't realise that parents are doing that from April through to Sept so for the people living beside the Green it's not just 'a couple of weeks' it's for nearly half of the year.

I'd far prefer to see kids playing outside at any time of the day or night than to see them on Twitter, Snapchat, FB, Xbox etc

Before 9am is too early and they should, IMO, be in by 10pm.
I used to stop mine playing out before 9am where we used to live, now we're in a rural farm cottage I let them play out as early as they like but encourage them to be quiet in the evenings as our neighbour goes to bed very early. You do need to be considerate of your neighbours and set playing out time/quiet time accordingly.

Why does it have to be either or MrsLeigh. Can't kids play outside during the day and up to nineish at night, and then go home and read, watch television etc until they go to bed?

If you heard the neighbours children out shouting and roaring in the garden or on the green late at night would your attitude really be 'well at least they're not on facebook, so that's alright?'

If I lived by a green I wouldn't mind kids playing football - draw the line at drunk teenagers and music blaring though.

In fact I have a field at the back of my house and a park 2 mins at the top of the hill and it really pisses me off that the stupid parents let the kids play on the car port on their bikes and kicking the football against the garages - it pisses me off more that I had to tell one of them off on Sat as they rode bike straight across the road without looking as I was coming into the close - no helmet nothing. Luckily we know kids are always doing it so go slow but one day it will be someone visiting not expecting it then it will be too late.

I think how late depends on the ages of the kids, my DS is nearly 16 and comes in 9.30 at latest if just out (as in not at cinema, bowling etc). DSD is year younger and usually comes in around 8 when her mates go home. DSS is nearly 11 so I would have him in 7.30 anyway. Doesn't matter where they are or what time they come in the are expected to be respectful of people and their property.

The general rule for quiet in most booughs is 11pm.Before that I don't see how one person's right trumps another person's.

Oh leave be. Let kids be kids. It's only nice enough to play out for less than half the year and even then less than half of that time is nice enough weather.

I don't care what people do as long as they shut up by midnight. So that would be my cut off point.

If it's just outside houses, 8pm. If it's not disturbing anyone, whatever time they fancy

I let my kids out to play about 8.30am. Most people are at work 9 here

Round here we take the balls in at 8 but the older kids stay out later than that, the sound of the ball was annoying one set of neighbours so that was our compromise.

By 9pm definitely. Even if its half term there are still babies and young children who need to sleep. And adults. Me, I'm often in bed 9.30 reading etc, trying to get some peace and quiet.

MN has put me off ever moving to a house near a green or a park; so many people seem to think its acceptable to make what to me is anti social noise.