To not decorate a nursery for dc2?

[LokiBear]

We are planning a second baby. We live in a largish 3 bed house. DD has the smallest room, we have the second largest and then a double set up in the spare room along with a computer desk for when we work at home. DH started to talk about how we might move the rooms around to accommodate a nursery. All rooms have lovely, modern fitted furniture that the previous owners installed not long before they sold up. It is very good quality and dh does not want to remove any of it because it is nicer than we could afford to buy. The trouble is, we would have to in order to make one of the rooms more child friendly. The fitted furniture in both rooms is designed to surround a double bed. There would be no room for DD's stuff if we didn't take out at least the bedside tables. I'd sooner not bother with a nursery because the double bed in the spare room would prove to be more handy. I could easily move the crib into there if thr baby was up a lot so that dh could sleep (he'd be working) With dd, I went OTT and whilst her nursery was beautiful, it wasn't used for the first 7 months as she was in with us. Then there were things that were totally impractical like linen nappy storage that I never had time to fill up. I'd rather wait until the baby is ready for a room of their own before rearranging the bedrooms. However, DH is upset because he thinks that the nursery is special. Aibu? Should I be less practical about this?

YANBU. A nursery isn't a necessity, nor is it "special". It sounds as if your DH has been watching too much Downton or something, if he thinks it's essential to have a separate room for that purpose. If DH wants a separate room for a nursery, ask whether he wants to fork out for a bigger house.

I didn't even really do a nursery for DC1 tbh.

The room was painted a neutral colour already, we chucked down a colourful ikea rug, put in a cot and change table and that was about it.

The whole nursery decorating and buying expensive furniture thing is big business, but not a necessity IMO.

The baby will totally not notice. :)

DC2 actually went in with their older sibling who had decorated with posters and random pictures they'd drawn...

I get what you mean! I would put second baby in her cot in the nice room with the double bed or maybe move some toys and things out of the nursery into the spare bedroom so kids can share the small room.

It's nice to have a nursery for the first one but you realise by the second that other things are a lot more important, I have a boy at the moment and a girl on the way, the nursery is blue sailboat fabric and grey walls, I won't be changing it because it's still nice and there isn't much point, kids don't care.

YANBU as long as you do something at some point. My cousin's first child had a beautifully decorated room, second was still stuck in what was clearly the spare room aged 5. Bit too clearly an unexpected arrival

I'm not decorating a nursery for dc1. Due in 10 weeks. We have two large bedrooms. The second bedroom is 14 x 12 abduction us fairly recently done in neutral colours. It has wardrobe, drawers, single bed. It will soon have a cot bed too. I am getting nice bedding for the bed and cot and a colourful rug.

I didn't decorate a room for DS1, it was already a pale green so just added the cot etc. When DC2 arrives s/he will have to share our room until we have managed to clear space on another room which is currently used as an office.

I decided with DC1 to decorate a room but to do it in a way that would last until scool age. So kept it fairly neutral. One wall of "children's"wall paper but not a typical baby theme (if that makes sense). Just a cot bed, normal chest of drawers and nursing chair. Colourful rug. Blanket box for storage of nappies,wipes etc.

Even though DS1 was in with us til around 3 months I still used to put him down for naps in his moses basket, in his co, in his room to try and get him used to his own environment. He loves his room now at age 4.

DS2 is now on the way so moving DC1 into the slightly bigger room which used to be the spare room. We are decorating that as it had had nothing done to it since we moved in. Again we've give for something that we hope will last til senior school age when he can choose his own decor!

Leaving the nursery as it is for DS2!

We are not decorating a nursery for dc1 due October. It's driving my mil mad, she thinks there is something cruel about not properly decorating a room to put baby in and getting matching furniture..
We have a nice neutral room ready and we are putting a changing table in it and a little storage chest for now.
We have a lovely cot for our room and we just don't want lots of things ee wont need for the purposes of decoration- like a nappy stacker etc.

Didn't decorate a nursery. Waited until dc1 was 1 and going into his own room and decorated it then. With dc2 we just had cot in spare room until they were sleeping through then moved in with dc1

I have never had a 'nursery' for any of my 3 dc. When they were around 6 months old they moved in to their own room, or in with a sibling. You will need to sort the rooms out at some point, but doesn't seen like there's a rush.

I never had a nursery either. I'm not even sure what a nursery is! is it just the baby's bedroom? My kids just had their own room with cot etc in it. Neither of them went to sleep in it until they were a few months old.

Thanks all. I knew I wasn't being mean. Number 2 will get to have a nice room at some point. With dd, we ended up using a co - sleeper because it was the only way she would sleep. If I'm going to go through that again then the double bed will come in handy.

Neither of my DDs had a room decorated for them until they were about 7.
Just stuck a cot in the smallest spare room , fairly neutral as I recall . Then moved DD1 into a bigger room when DD2 arrived .I think babies see in black and white (?) and only very close to for ages? It's for you not them .
I did let them choose the decor for 'their' bedrooms when we re-did them after they officially left home .

Can you put the cot side on where the bed would be iyswim?

You could make it a really nice little nook with paint etc. Moses basket could go in the cot till DC2 is too big.