To think playing music on a train is antisocial and inconsiderate?

[yellowdinosauragain]

I'm on a train journey with my 2 sons for the next couple of hours. Next to us is a group of 4 women who are playing music. No headphones, out loud. My pet hate is people inflicting their music on others in public. I find it really rude.

I'm not going to ask them to turn it off. I'm not irritated enough to risk causing a scene in front of my kids. So I know I'm unreasonable for that. But am I unreasonable to find this deeply antisocial and selfish behaviour?

Ask one of the ticket checkers to have a word.

No, YANBU. It's a really trashy way to behave, completely inconsiderate. I always choose the quiet coach if I can for exactly this reason. Try giving them a Paddington Hard Stare.

I must be turning into a right old grouch as meek and mild as I tend to be as a rule, I would have absolutely NO qualms about politely asking them to turn it off!

My experience with people like this is, no matter how polite and nice you are when you request that the music is listened to through earphones, you usually get a mouthful of abuse in return. Doesn't stop me trying, though.

Give back as good as you get!

But seriously I find everyone else backs you up - everyone is just waiting for somebody to say something!

I could let me sons put the volume back on for their irritating ipod games. Trouble is that would probably piss me off far more!

I have no qualms speaking up for myself, but my experience is like nettle's hence not wanting that in front of my sons.

It's called 'sodcasting' (someone told me this last week)

And no, YANBU. It's one of my pet hates. So arrogant to suppose that everyone else wants to listen to your (shit) music.

YANBU, and I'd probably put up with it, BUT if you politely asked them to turn it off and they turned nasty I would come over and back you up.

Love sodcasting :D

Funny how it's never good music played in this situation isn't it?

I'd just ask them politely to turn it off. I'm always asking people to use headphones - it's no biggie. I'm not intimidated by kids - if they give you abuse, tell the ticket inspector. But they won't - normally they just don't think, they're not deliberately being rude.

Last year when we went on holiday a family in front of us put Ice Age on their iPad and their children watched the WHOLE FILM without headphones. I was so shocked that a naice middle class family could be like that, I never said a word!

My experience with people like this is, no matter how polite and nice you are when you request that the music is listened to through earphones, you usually get a mouthful of abuse in return

This. I was in the Quiet Coach the other day. Someone's phone across the aisle from me rang several times, loudly, before she bothered to answer it. She then took the call instead of racing for the vestibule, or calling back from the vestibule. I leant over and politely and in a low voice, said "Excuse me, this is the Quiet Zone" and the woman responded by telling me "I know, but I had to take this call." Then her husband chimed in "She couldn't help the phone going off." Their tone was short and irritated, as I were the one being rude.

I don't get it. What's wrong with smiling and apologising? And turning your phone to silent.

YANBU, but I understand why you don't want to get into a row with the rude passengers.

They're not kids, they're women on a hen night aged (best guess) early 30s.

But thank fuck the music is off, for now at any rate!

They're dicks.

i don't give a monkeys, i have to say something.

YANBU. Selfish fuckers

My overwealming desire at times like this is for Wagner. Very loud ! I'm too jerk and mild to do so but still :)

Instead I have notes cancelling headphones.

I was in a first class quiet coach when I had a similar situation to upthechimney.

She kept tellingme - "but it is an important call"

I kept repeating " itcan be important in the vestibule, the work I've brought with me is important and this is the quiet coach"

Eventually the food/drink servers came by and moved her to the vestibule then it transpired they (she husband and grandchild) didn't even have a first class ticket.

The got moved to standard amid much protestation.

Some people are amazingly cheeky!!