...or is DH?

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So. DH had an appointment yesterday in the afternoon. He decided to take a nap around noon, I offered to wake him up.

DCs get restless; I decide to take them outside. Phoned DH at required time, but no answer - because he'd switched his phone off, to which he's normally wedded.

I have to admit - I was vaguely aware that this could be a possibility, so effectively took a risk when I decided to phone rather than go back home. However, He did nit tell me tgat he'd switch off his phone explicitly.

He woke up too late. My fault?

It doesn't sound good, op. Your 'one job'? You were looking after the kids whilst he took a nap, ffs. Why did you offer to wake him though?

You said you'd wake him up. You didn't. I'd be annoyed too.

His fault. He's an adult and needs to ensure his naps don't mean he misses his appointments himself.

He sounds like a five year old who has slept through a play date from the way he is blaming you!

He is DBU, to blame you after he'd switched his phone off is utter arsery.

It sounds like he relishes any opportunity to have a go at you.

In future when he asks you to do something like this, just say no. You're busy with your ONE JOB.

Doesn't his phone have an alarm function ? If I have a nap and it's imperative that I wake at a certain time I put it on to ring and vibrate and put it in a pocket or actually in bed with me.

It sounds like he relishes any opportunity to have a go at you.

Quite.

Is he incapable of taking responsibility for himself?

Ask him why he thinks he's married to a dog.

You were being unreasonable when you agreed to wake him up then you didn't wake him up. He was relying on you and you let him down.

He is being unreasonable for banging on about it. Nobody died.

YABU for offering to wake him up. He's a grown man FFS, he can set an alarm.

If he expects you to do all this stuff, HIBU, but more fool you for doing it and not telling him to grow up.

YABU, because you said you'd wake him.
Had you not said you would do that, then it would be him BU, but, to be fair, that's what you'd agreed.

He needs to take responsibility for his own organisation.

Even my 15 yr old DD can get herself up in the morning by setting her phone alarm.

This appointment was his responsibility to attend.

I don't think YWBU, as you did try to phone him.

Thanks for all the answers - I guess it was daft to offer to wake him up! Well, I should have learnt my lesson now!

YANBU

hes a grown man. Couldn't he have set an alarm and put his phone on mute? that's what DH and I do

I'd just wake him to say I was going out, and tell him to set an alarm.. then everyone would be happy :P