to go out for the day without the DCs?

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DH and I have been to the seaside. Without the DDs!!!

Had a lovely day. No arguing, fighting, no tears, no strops, no whinging.

DD1 is most put out and in a huff .

DD2 is in a complete strop and sulking and going on and on and on and on and on about being lonely.

Is it that unreasonable to go out for the day without them?

Where were they? I think if it's a nice day where you are and they didn't have plans then it's a bit off to go without them.

Having said that, you are entitled to time just the two of you.

Umm, if they are under six weeks, then ur possibly being U

Over five, not so much. Over sixteen, prolly best to move and leave no forwarding address.

YANBU. It's good to have time to yourselves.

I do remember feeling particularly put out that my mother once had the brass neck to go to the beach for the day while I was at school. I got over it. As will your dds!

How old are they? Where were they while you were out?

Not unreasonable to have a nice day out but I'm not sure I would have come home and told them all about what a lovely time you had without them

Yanbu.

He who hangs together stays together, or something

Your children should revel in the fact their parents actually want to spend time together.

That's my theory....

God no yanbu! Do it again as soon as possible!

DD1 is 19. And in flipping Thailand.

DD2 is 17.

How close to the sea do you live? If it's close enough to be a regular thing, then YANBU, if it's far enough away to make it an event, then I understand why they're upset.

I assume you did non-kiddy things? No building sandcastles or hunting in rock pools?

Maybe explain that it wasn't a child-friendly day, even in a child friendly location.

I'm seriously considering the 'no forwarding address' option.

They're old enough to take themselves to the seaside! Of course YANBU to have a day out together.

I barely knew where my mum was any of the time when I was 17!!

They are stropping because we went to the seaside we always normally go to as a faaaaamly.

Well in that case no! ignore my previous post. Hope you had fun.

sorry, cross posted.

Laughing out loud. 17 and 19 and one of them's in THAILAND. Shit, no beaches there.

And I suggested explaining you didn't build sandcastles.

That has REALLY tickled me, Hooked

Hilarious! For some reason, they get even huffier about parents having a life of their own when they're of an age when they actually have lives of their own!

Ahhhhh...its nice they want to spend time with you. Sometimes with teens you dont know where they are half the time! Have a nice day out together soon. Or fly out to Thailand and say supriiiiiise

D2 doesn't even like me. Nor the bloody seaside. I have no idea why she is so put out.

That's so funny OP

Do they know you have friends, drink alcohol, talk about stuff other than them, and have sex too??

I don't think it's unreasonable even regardless of their ages. I love to hear of couples who enjoy each other, that's the person you're going to be left with when they fly the nest etc you don't want to wake up one morning and realize you don't actually like being alone together!

OP you have made me laugh. I thought you were talking about 9/10 year olds who'd been out with friends/relatives for the day or something.

YANBU at all. But part of me also thinks, how nice that your DDs clearly have such fond memories of your family beach trips, and would have loved to have come along with you today (aside from the minor logistical issue of being in Thailand, of course )

Of course YANBU at their ages, they could take themselves to the beach. Myself and my oh left out son when he was 10 months for the day to go to a theme park last year and we are doing it this year as well. It's nice to do things sometimes just as a couple.

Did you swish your new hair about Hooked?

Oh I did swish. All day!

And I enjoyed it too!