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Original poster

...to be getting more angry by the minute!

34 replies

MrsSippy · 23/05/2015 18:11

I was outside this morning doing a bit of work in the garden when one of my neighbours came over for a chat (not a regular thing, we're not really each other's cup of tea!!)

She asked me if I'd met any of the new neighbours yet, as we have three new families moved into the street. I said I'd not seen them at all, she said that she hadn't either - all fair enough so far! Then she told me that 'Sue' (another neighbour) had told her that none of them had put any money in the Christian Aid envelopes that she took round last week, and that she was 'disgusted', and why couldn't they even put in 50p like Fred and Wilma did!!!

I'm bloody raging here, but OH seems very nonplussed so I'm wondering if it's just me??

OP posts:
Justusemyname · 23/05/2015 18:13

What are you angry about?Confused

MissDemelzaCarne · 23/05/2015 18:13

I'd be irritated but I don't understand why you're "bloody raging"? Confused

Icimoi · 23/05/2015 18:14

Angry that the new neighbours didn't contribute, or angry that Sue has been checking up on what people contributed and broadcasting the details? If the latter, YANBU.

chippednailvarnish · 23/05/2015 18:15

What did Barney and Betty think?

MakeItRain · 23/05/2015 18:15

I don't think I'd be "raging". But I'd have been a bit taken aback. I probably would have just said "maybe they give to their own charities" and changed the subject.

alicemalice · 23/05/2015 18:16

Sounds like quite an angry neighbourhood, all things told.

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fearandloathinginambridge · 23/05/2015 18:18

I assume you are cross that she is gossiping about new neighbours. I get where you are coming from but it's not worth raging over.

Alisvolatpropiis · 23/05/2015 18:19
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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 23/05/2015 18:19

Bloody raging? OP, you need to chill.

Charis1 · 23/05/2015 18:19

what a complete non issue

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MrsSippy · 23/05/2015 18:20

yeah sorry, bloody angry that she's broadcasting the details of what people have put in the charity envelopes - not just the ones that didn't contribute but the amount that those who did.

It just seems a shitty thing to and I'm bloody sure that was all nosey neighbour came over to gossip about.

Alicemalice - it's certainly a bit toxic for sure!

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Justusemyname · 23/05/2015 18:23

How pathetic

blankgaze · 23/05/2015 18:38

yeah sorry, bloody angry that she's broadcasting the details of what people have put in the charity envelopes - not just the ones that didn't contribute but the amount that those who did.

If you are 100% sure she's opened the envelopes and counted everyone's individual contribution then broadcast that info, let the charity know what she's done.

ItsAllKickingOffPru · 23/05/2015 18:39

Is it Christian Aid Week? I haven't had my envelope to throw in the bin.

rallytog1 · 23/05/2015 18:40

'Sue' is very out of line. CAW volunteer collectors aren't supposed to open the envelopes, and even if they're on the team that does open the envelopes and count the money, they shouldn't be sharing details of who contributed what - that's basic data protection.

I can see why you're angry. If you know who organises your local CAW collection, you should let them know that details of people's giving is being shared. Sue may need a little bit of 'education'.

londonrach · 23/05/2015 18:43

Im shocked if she opened them as nothing to stop her taken some money from each envelope. This needs reported to the charity involved.

BastardGoDarkly · 23/05/2015 18:44

That must be the lamest but of gossip I've ever heard Grin tell her if she must come round spouting gossip, make it the 'whos been dogging/swinging' variety.

CruncherOfCrisps · 23/05/2015 18:53

Chipped I think I just inhaled a passing fly laughing at that [has coughing fit] Grin

chippednailvarnish · 23/05/2015 18:54
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Topseyt · 23/05/2015 19:11

I'm a bit miffed that I haven't had my Christian Aid envelope for the recycling bin.

It's a non-issue anyway. I can't get worked up over it. Certainly not raging about it. Mind you, if you listen to MN then there are people who apparently "rage" over just about anything and it can't do their sanity much good.

ImperialBlether · 23/05/2015 19:23

Oh for god's sake, it's not against the Data Protection Act!!!

The envelopes don't even contain the name of the contributor - how can it be against the DPA?

VelvetRose · 23/05/2015 19:23

I would think someone was a bit of a cow if they gossiped about something like that.

Theycallmemellowjello · 23/05/2015 19:28

How weird, yes I'd be very freaked out if it turned out neighbours were speculating and gossiping about supposed charitable contributions. I'd limit contact to the bear minimum.

rallytog1 · 23/05/2015 20:05

The envelopes DO contain the person's name, if they gift aid it, which the majority of people do.

And the collector isn't supposed to open the envelopes - the only way they could know if the envelope is empty is if they looked inside it.

rallytog1 · 23/05/2015 20:11

ie the reason why collectors shouldn't look inside or open the envelopes is because of data protection. They're expressly briefed on it. Sorry, I didn't explain properly before.