To ask why I'm being excluded?

[notbread]

I was part of a group of 4 friends in school. 3 women and 1 man. For the purposes of this thread it's Me, Peppa, Susie and George.

Obviously people drift apart over the years and people move away. So at various times over the past 15 years, our relationships have varied. At this point in time, me peppa and susie live near each other and I see them pretty much every week. George lives away but visits maybe every couple of months. Thing is, I've never been invited. Usually I find out after the fact and it's always been brushed off by Peppa and Susie as bad timing/schedules clashing.

This week, I saw Peppa and Susie and they starting talking about how they were meeting with George today. I wasn't directly involved in the conversation as I was busy with someone else but I overheard them and when I rejoined the conversation they changed the subject.

I'm seeing them tonight so they know I would have been free to meet up and obviously they would have had the chance to invite me when I saw them earlier in the week. In my mind there's no ambiguity any more and I'm being deliberately excluded.

Wibu to ask Peppa and Susie why I'm excluded from these meetings with George? And any tips on how to ask without sounding petty?

Sounds like you're better off out of it!

Maybe ask Zoe?!

Miss Rabbit is bound to know.

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Are you really gorgeous and George's Mrs doesn't want him anywhere near you?!

Are you really gorgeous and George's Mrs doesn't want him anywhere near you?!

Or Zoe Zebra ;-)

Has anything happened in the past between you and George?
Has there ever been a jokey argument that he could have taken seriously?
Hope you get it sorted

I was going to facetiously suggest that George, Peppa and Susie are
meeting regularly for a threesome and you were surplus to requirements, but it sounds like there might be an opening now.

Ooh I'm curious now! Did any of you date George in the past?

What's the update? !

Agree the problem lies with George. What was the relationship history between the 4 of you?

These things do happen. I lived with and studied with 3 other girls for 4 years during Uni. All got on well at the time. After we graduated we stayed in the same city. One of them decided that she simply didn't like one of the others (she justified it by saying that the other had been flirting with her boyfriend) and since then has not spoken to her.

Despite none of us having a clue what she has done to deserve being cold shouldered my friend has just accepted that the other doesn't want her in her life and never pushed the subject. It must have been very hurtful at the time as there really was no inkling during our time living together.

I hope Peppa has an answer for us you

I don't think George likes you very much did you snatch his dinosaur? and it's getting a bit too awkward for Peppa to pretend everything's fine by excluding you.

OK! After some intensive texting it turns out he's started to exclude Peppa too. So he seems to have worked his way up to just meeting with Susie. Susie is finding the whole thing ridiculously uncomfortable but we're all too British to ask him what the hell is going on.

I've come to the conclusion that he's a bit weird and possibly in love with Susie.

Hmm. So why doesn't Susie just say " Let's invite Peppa and Notbread too? "
Clearly Susie is enjoying her special attention

I'd go out for a drink with Peppa.

I'd be tempted to ask George outright himself why he hates you bit overdramatic the hate!

It does seem that he is in love with Susie possibly but it could also be some weird thing like you said that he likes the dynamic of meeting with 2 friends and the other being shut out (and of course knowing about it 2nd hand from the other friends) - some people thrive on this sort of gossip/scenario.

And if it is the above well really this George is best left alone by you and then Peppa if she so wants to do so. Let him play by himself eventually if Susie ditches him.

Do you actually want to see George though? Or do you just mind being left out? Sometimes old friends of mine meet up and leave me out, and it stings a bit but I'm secretly relieved because I know that actually we don't work as a group any more, and I don't genuinely enjoy spending time with some of them when it comes to it.

It is awful to be excluded on your own. But now you are excluded along with a friend. This is scientific proof that the problem is him, not you. Thus you may officially stop caring!

I wouldn't read too much into this. I'm sure we can all think of people from school where the friendship (or other reason for hanging out) just hasn't passed the test of time.

If you are still worried, I suppose you could always dig up the road. Works for me.

Also, George and Susie? Think of the children!
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