AIBU - to be upset with DH

[butterfliesandbee]

I purchased a outfit today for a very special family occasion. It was much more expensive than i have ever spent on clothes but it is beautiful, fits perfect and everyone who has seen it said wow.
Dh came home, I tried it on to show him and his response was somewhat disappointing. Apparently it looks ok but nothing special. I was totally gutted, i had hoped for him to be proud to be with me on the day and for it to be special but his reaction has made me doubt myself, how i look etc.
I assume this is all my issue and it shouldnt matter what he thinks but iy does and i am upset. But AIBU to be upset.

[Quitelikely]

So you would have preferred it if he lied?

Taking it back is just cutting your nose off to spite your face............

[diddl]

Oh yes, don't take it back!

If you like it & feel comfortable, that's great.

Him not liking it doesn't mean that you don't look good in it!

Trust your own judgement & dress for yourself.

Thinking that you haven't been happy for a long time odd, yes.

Sounds as if he is trying to turn it all onto you,

Why is it your fault if he doesn't like an outfit?

Why is it yourfault if he thinks that you areunhappy?

He sounds really detached.

[MrsSheRa]

Your new outfit seems to have opened a can of worms

If you feel great in it, absolutely keep it.

The issues with Dh and your self esteem are seperate and need a serious looking at.

[bigbumtheory]

What does he think that you've been unhappy about for years? Your relationship? Him? Yourself? It's not very clear.

I agree with the person who said it's not healthy, it isn't healthy to blame yourself as being at fault but nor is it fair to ask him why he hasn't changed if he saw you unhappy. Perhaps you both need to change something? It sounds like you are very unhappy and neither know how to communicate this with the other. His running to hide in bed doesn't help at all, it's akin to burying his head.

YWBU to think his opinion should decide on whether you wear something you love or not. I wear many things DH doesn't think are that lovely on me, I love them it's my style and I'm comfy. I don't ask his opinion on those thins because i know it's not his taste. He shouldn't have to lie to you though, honesty is better especially as the dress could well not do you justice and you may not have seen it (haven't we all had outfits like that when we've been unsure and asked?). I think if you'd got all dress up and then he'd offered the opinion 'you don't look that great' he'd have been out of order but if you ask then it suggests that you aren't sure, so of course he should be offered.