To think that I'm not a 'snob' for buying DD second hand next bundles off eBay!

[Inlawsandoutlaws]

Been to visit a friend this afternoon with DD, 22 months. DF commented on DD's outfit (which I got off eBay for £4.50) and went on to check the brand tag. "Oh we're wearing Next again are we, mummy's a bit of a snob about your clothes isn't she?"

I half think that she commented in jest but half of me thinks she's being serious. We live on a farm and DD doesn't get the opportunity to wear her best clothes too often for fear of them being covered in cow/sheep shit. I like to make sure that she looks smart when we go out and yes I do like Next clothes, they wash well and look gorgeous, but I never buy anything new I'm always in charity shops or buying bundles from friends or eBay. I'm upset by her comments, it's not the first time she's said something of the sort, she quite likes to wade in with her opinions and usurp me! I retaliated this time and told her that she would be the first to comment if she was dirty! Just needed to rant!

I dont think next is snobbish. Actually its common. The quality is terrible, they look like a rag after washing them.

I will never understand why people queue up at 5am at the next sale

YANBU, and as a farmer I guess deep down you know you are.

if you want a pat on the back, then you have already had them.

I agree withcountingthepennies no way is Next a snobby shop.

Your friend has bad manners. The. End.

Good grief, Next stuff snobbish? It's awful quality, and crap designs imo. I've no idea how it has stood the test of time. And I wouldn't consider myself a clothes 'snob' at all - I like Sainsbury's stuff, and the odd thing out the Gap sale. I'm amazed that someone would consider Next snobbish.

I do like next and I like the designs, plus I think it's good quality compared to a lot of brands! Everything I have seems to wash remarkably well!

Reminds me of an episode of wife swap where the wife opened the kitchen cupboards and said " oooooh sainsbury's "

"They must be posh, they shop at Sainsburys"

Not keen on Next personally and certainly don't see it as an aspirational brand but your 'friend' was extremely rude to check out your DDs clothing labels like that. What would have been acceptable? Tesco? Primark? She sounds very jealous and envy is never an attractive trait.

Only get out clause would if you had been pontificating fabulousness of Next clothes on previous visit knowing she could afford them for her own DC.

If you got it off eBay it automatically loses all snob value, regardless of the brand. Them's the rules.

snobbish LOL at Next being seen as aspirational

Next isn't aspirational for lots of you but it's definitely seen as that by some of my friends. Expensive compared to asda for example.

I agree not snobby btw

Your 'friend' of course is bonkers and not very nice

Oh I had this comment from none other than a midwife just as I was being discharged with DS when he was born. He was in a beautiful white snowsuit with teddy bear ears and NEXT written across the front, she commented something like "oh, we're a Next baby are we?" . It sounded very condescending, I found it odd.

Next is a perfectly average high street store, nothing posh about it at all. My mum also seems to be under the impression it's posh and I don't get it at all. It really isn't . Plus who looks at children's clothing labels? That's just weird. 'fraid to say your friend is a weirdo.

I had a similar comment from someone as both my ds's have been sporting quite a lot of Gap, Mammas and Pappas and John Lewis baby clothes.
All given to us by friends or found in charity shops. Most of it probably third hand at least. I found myself feeling like I needed to defend myself, to justify my spending to them.

Why?? It was really none of their business! We're not massively wealthy, but we're not short of money either and it wasn't any of their business as all whether I'd bought them new or second hand or anything!

Next time reply with something like ' yes it was a bargain off eBay only £4.50. I get loads of stuff off there.' Whilst looking (and being) really pleased with yourself.
I love showing off my designer bargains! Ds had all sorts of fancy and designer stuff but they were all second hand. So what, they hardly wear them. Good for you going second hand (although the we do need people to buy them in the first place )

Who on earth would ever check the label in a child's clothes to see where they were from? Seriously, that's the maddest thing I've ever heard and if friends did it to my DCs I'd tell them to piss right off.

It doesn't matter what you dress your DD in, or whether any of it is second hand. It's nobody's business but your own.

Next and Sainsburys are posh to some people, me included... Not that it justifies those comments, but it certainly is posh/high brow to some people.

I agree with Jackthomsonsbairns. Next is nowhere near posh. I can hear Harper Beckham laughing from here!

I also can't understand everyone tripping over themselves to make everyone else aware that they only buy 'posh' stuff in the sales, charity shop or are given it. There is no shame in buying clothes brand new if you can afford it. It doesn't make you vulgar or showy. I buy new stuff from Zara Kids, Gap Kids etc as well as Asda and Sainsburys. Can't understand why anyone would care what other people dress their kids in.

mousefinckle I think ds had that one, did it have three little bears on the front? He looked so cute and snug in it and it was £4 from oxfam!

Next isn't posh, but I do think that most of the stuff is a little expensive for what you get. Mine's a Sainsbury's baby - cute and cheap, especially when they have 25% off.

She's showing her age. I remember next being aspirational.

Can you find some of that posh shop, pylorn and pole something or other just to see her explode?.

God knows what she'd make of my friend's dd.Joules and Boden are considered casual wear. I've seem her in Ralph Lauren, dior, ollilly and a whole range of other amazing clothes I've got no chance of identifying! Even her night clothes are from an excruciatingly expensive brand

My children on the other hand live almost entirely in handed down clothes with eBay and charity shop stuff thrown in. I do splash out on nice outfits from time to time but notmuch

she doesn't have any DCs herself, I always say that you can get anything for a decent price if you look hard enough! I do my best to make sure that she's smart and does wear nice clothes, I don't think that there's any shame in taking a pride in my DD's appearance!

MIL seems to have the same stance and always has something to say about the parcels I get through the post "you're keeping the post,an in a job with all of these bloody parcels" our post etc goes to her house because we live down a track so it's easier for postie to get to