AIBU to want to go out this weekend?

[Nabootique]

Bit of background:

I work full time. I have my DC one night during the week and both nights every weekend. During the week I work long days, starting early, and I don't really get out much because I'm tired by the end of the day and I have to check on a dependant relative after work. I do sometimes pull myself together and have some time with friends on weekday evenings, but not that often.

It is possible to have a baby sitter (family member) Saturday night for DC so I can go out and would only miss a little time with them, but I just feel SO guilty about it. I have done it a few times in the past (I think twice this year, maybe) and always feel bad, like I'm being selfish.

I've just had a very trying week. A dear friend died, I had a work review which did not go well and I split up with DP a few months back, but it's been complicated thereafter. I thought we'd end up working things out and now it looks like we won't, and I'm heart broken.

Does anyone else feel this bad about a night out when it cuts into time with DC, when you don't have them full time, that is. AIBU to want to see some friends and de-stress? Should I give myself a break?

Reading that back I think I sound a bit entitled, actually. I know there are lots and lots of people with no time/opportunity to do things that they want to do.

I don't think you sound entitled, YANBU to go out and let your hair down a bit. Have a drink for your friend

Sorry about your friend op

I do think yabu though. You have 4 child free nights a week!

Thank you both.

They might be child free but they aren't exactly free by the time I've finished work and gone to check on relative. I don't need to do it if someone else has but this is extremely rare, and that would be when I possibly would go out in the week.

If the child is young could you put them to bed before you go out? Reach a happy medium, you may feel less guilty?

And actually, you may only have them 3 nights a week, but if 2 of them are constantly weekends you miss your own time

Child free week nights are not the same as child free weekend nights.

Go out, enjoy yourself. Relax with a drink, some adult, non dependant, company and raise a glass to your friend.

It sounds like you need it.

Thank you, Bee and Max. That's just it, it is different not having weekend nights free, partly because that's when people who you might want to go out with want to go out.

I'm happy to have the DC every weekend. I feel quite lucky as I know a lot of parents who aren't the primary carer don't get them as much as that, but sometime it does feel like my life is just being a care giver and working.

YANBU to want a night out. If you have a babysitter available then go for it!
Id love a night out with DH but we don't have anyone to babysit.

given that you have them every weekend then no, not unreassonable. especially given the circumstances.