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AIBU?

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to call someone about the car parked outside my house?

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DuelingFanjo · 22/05/2015 09:51

A car has been parked outside my house for over three weeks, one of the tyres is looking a bit soft now and it hasn't moved an inch. I'm starting to wonder if it's been abandoned.

I want to report it but presume IABU to call the police.

WWYD?

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 22/05/2015 23:10

Is it arse.

It's attitudes like that that only apply to legally parked vehicles.

If you do not own the road then you don't own it, everybody has the right to park on it,why is your convenance more important than the persons who parks outside your house?

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 05:47

"You do not have the right, moral OR legal, to park as close as possible to your house. Get over it."

To be fair I am managing to park in my street and near my house as I have a resident's parking permit so can easily find a space, usually outside another person's house.

Where I park is not really the issue. It's just generally annoying me that someone has left their car for almost four weeks in our street which is having a knock on effect on anyone. Similarly I am annoyed by the way the neighbour parks outside his house because he generally takes up more room than he needs to by parking like a twat. Plus they have put a sign up on a fence I think they had no authority to erect which reads 'no unauthorised parking' despite not having the authority to do so.

I am surrounded by twats, the driver of the bmw outside my house is a twat but I am probably being unreasonable to let it annoy me.

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 05:48

For 'anyone' read everyone.

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 05:50

Ps I really like the idea of yarn bombing the most but sadly do not have the skill.

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DuchessofBuffonia · 23/05/2015 07:40

I opened this thread thinking it could be about my car.

I only passed my test a couple of years ago and my mum pretty much forced her car on me as she was getting a new one.

I rarely need to drive anywhere as I catch the train (and bought a house near the station for this reason). I also suffer from anxiety and the longer I went between driving, the more terrified I became.

There are very few houses with driveways here (and no parking on my road), so I would try to leave it outside the rare houses with a parking space.

I know some will flame me for this, but the longest I went without moving it was 8 months. By that stage I couldn't even look at it or speak about it without rising panic.

My husband had to restart the battery and get a new one. When he did, another resident said that they had contacted the council and police about it as they were concerned that it belonged to a commuter who had died, but were told as it was insured to someone who lived nearby, and was taxed, there was nothing to be done.

Luckily, my brother has agreed to take it off my hands and is travelling up today to take it away. The feeling of relief at signing it over to him is immense.

So, there could be more complex reasons about why it is there, but if it has tax and insurance there is not a lot that can be done. If anyone had 'yarn bombed' my car I would have been beside myself with anxiety, guilt and anger. Really mean thing to do.

MissDuke · 23/05/2015 08:15

There's lots of reasons why it is incredible rude. I don't need to park out my front most of the time, but sometimes I do need to, so leaving a car parked there for weeks or even months (!!) would be a nightmare - I wouldn't be able to wash/vacuum my car at home - therefore would have to pay to do it at a garage. I wouldn't have been able to get the skip I needed to get rid of my bathroom suite, or to load the car up with the extra rubbish that needed to go to the dump, if my car was parked in the next street. I would never do it on anyone, even to you sock (despite your weirdly rude replies on here), so I guess I would be baffled that someone else would be so inconsiderate. I guess its a reminder that some people only think of themselves.

Duchess, is there anyway you could drive the car just up and down that street with your brother in the car? If you give up now, you will literally never drive again - which seems a shame. Did you try taking another set of lessons, I am sure there's lessons for nervous drivers? Sorry but I do think you were very U for leaving the car for 8 months, you could at least have moved it slightly up and down the street every week or so, or left it further away were there was parking NOT right outside someone's house. It sounds like your brother or dh could have moved it for you much sooner. Sorry but I think leaving it in the one spot for 8 months is just awful. Also, you need to learn to say NO to your mum! Not easy, for sure - but needs to be done sometimes

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 08:27

Sorry to hear about your situation Ducjess.

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CactusAnnie · 23/05/2015 08:32

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lunar1 · 23/05/2015 08:54

There is no excuse to leave a car outside someone's house for 8 months, that is appalling behaviour! You should have had someone else move it months ago. I think the neighbours have been incredibly patient not to stick notes all over it.

ButterflyUpSoHigh · 23/05/2015 09:06

I sympathise with your situation Duchess but there is no conceivable reason to leave your car outside someones house for 8 months. Surely there was somewhere it could be parked where it wasn't directly outside someones house. You should have got someone else to move it sooner.

Here the houses are all in rectangular blocks so on each corner there is space to park alongside the side of the corner house which won't be annoying anyone.

We are a 2 car family and try to park one outside our house. We respectfully park the other one where it doesn't annoy anyone else.

NorbertDentressangle · 23/05/2015 09:23

There's been a car along the road from us for about 4-5 months that hasn't moved and doesn't belong to anyone here.

It's not the sort of road that anyone would park to go anywhere (small, quiet road, semi-rural, not near town or railway station, pub etc) - bit of a mystery really but as it's still taxed the police/council told my neighbour there was nothing that they could do and couldn't pass on any details about the owner.

The thing is it's a "high-end" car - prestigious make, top model in the range, all the top specs (according to Top Gear loving DS!!) and it's just sitting there with grass growing up around it!

LadyStark · 23/05/2015 09:48

Intrigued as to where all these parking spaces are that aren't in front of someone's house. Maybe it's because I live pretty close to London but I can't think of a single place I could park that's not in front of someone's house.

TooBusyByHalf · 23/05/2015 10:08

Lady stark, in London cars move all the time. So sometimes you get a space in front of your house and sometimes down the road etc. But when cars are dumped and never moved for months on end it's bloody annoying because the whole flow is blocked.

CactusAnnie · 23/05/2015 10:48

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/05/2015 16:06

If parking right outside your house is that important to you then buy a house with a driveway or one on a private road that you can also buy. Or if entitled to do so apply for a BB space.

A residents parking scheme does not even guarantee you can park outside your house

There is a reason why it's called a public highway and that usually because it is for the use of the public.

missDuke some people have a different way of communicating,this is acceptable, i obviously have a different way of comunicating than you do. It does not make me weirdly rude. And I don't need to fret about people parking outside my house because I do indeed own the road it's on and no other cars can get down it because I have a jolly large gate preventing them.

Welshmaenad · 23/05/2015 16:33

Our council does not grant disabled parking spaces. At all. I need to park outside our house for disabled DD's sake. If someone dumped a car outside my house for 8 months I'd have slashed their fucking tyres, it's beyond selfish prickery.

FryOneFatManic · 23/05/2015 16:37

A car parked for weeks/months can cause knock on issues for other people parking there.

I used to leave on a street with no private parking. Hardly anyone got stupid about parking/not parking outside their own house, and we all parked pretty considerately. Parking went smoothly. One car parked and left for ages would certainly have made it harder for this.

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 16:45

Ha ha ha ha only on mumsnet would the answer to not being able to park iutside your house be 'buy a house with a drive'

As I have said, I have a resident permit so I can park in any resident space in the street and indeed I do as the spaces outside my house are non-resident spaces for those who don't have a permit or visitors or, as it turns out, people who want to abandon their cars for weeks on end.

Personally I choose not to behave like my opposite neighbours who police the resident parking space outside their hous as if the do have a right to it.

Anyway, opposite neighbours are back, car still not moved and tyre looking very flat.

I will call the police on June 1st if the tax is not renewed.

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/05/2015 16:59

But if you live in a house with out private parking you just have to accept that other people can and will use nearby parking. And there is nothing you or anybody else can do about it.

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DuelingFanjo · 23/05/2015 17:03

Apart from buy a house with a drive. Solved.

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CactusAnnie · 23/05/2015 17:05

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/05/2015 17:21

If you decide not to prioritise that feature when choosing where you live unfortunately that is just what happens.

It's not ideal it quite possibly causes annoyance but unless the rules change its just a fact of life.you have no more right to the space than anybody else

NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/05/2015 17:25

Welsh, is there any scope for trying to force the LA to do so? I wouldn't have the foggiest how to do so but it could be worth finding out if it's possible.

Even then tho unless you get a number ID one any BB holder can also use the space

lostincumbria · 23/05/2015 17:33

Nobody has the right to space on the street where they live. Nobody has a right to sit on a seat on a train seat someone else has placed their bag on. Nobody has the right to a quiet life if they can't afford a detached house on private land.

Twattishness vs civility.

I preferred us when we were a civil country who looked our for each other.

CactusAnnie · 23/05/2015 17:42

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