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to ask them not to slam the door?

13 replies

MicrochipsAndMemories · 19/05/2015 18:34

My wife and I live in a terrace house with our 12 month old son and small (quiet) dog. We've been living here for 3 years now and everything has been great but we just got new neighbours 4 weeks ago. Sad
The new neighbours consist of a mum, her boyfriend and her 3 teenagers. They are noisy ALL the time. They slam doors, stamp about and play loud base heavy music sporadically throughout the day from about 7am till 11pm. Sometimes for hours on end. It is driving us crazy. We have spoken to the mum twice and both times she has shouted to the kids to turn it down, which they have, just for it to start again 10 mins later. Sad
Today they have woken our son up twice in the space of 1 hour by slamming the front door when leaving. The second time I opened our door and politely asked the teenage boy if he HAD to slam the door EVERY time he leave? he just grinned and said he can do what he wants along with some other mouthy stuff -so I told him to fuck off- and then got in his dads car. His dad then sat outside for 10 mins with his window down staring at me through our window. I went out and asked him to leave and he started shouting at me in the street about how rude I was and I needed to learn some lessons on how to be polite. This made me laugh.

I knocked on next doors door to try to speak to them about the noise but the boyfriend was the only adult in and when I said base can be turned down he said he can't hear it. Even though I can hear it on our ground floor when they are listening to it on their 2nd Angry
Apparently I have to deal with it because that's what living in a terraced house is like. The old neighbours were never this loud and they we're going and had parties!

Sorry if this makes no sense. I am very angry and have a teething and very overly tired baby sitting on my lap.

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thetroubleis · 19/05/2015 18:37

The long and the short of it- you need to move.

Yabu to swear, you're nbu to ask them to stop, you're a fantasist if you think this will ever end well for you.

MicrochipsAndMemories · 19/05/2015 18:42

We rent and there aren't any houses on the town we love in within our price range Sad Also, we like living here. Usually.

The mum told us the first time we spoke to her about it that she is going through a divorce and the stay there is only temporary so we're just hoping they will be gone at some point. It's not for ever.

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MicrochipsAndMemories · 19/05/2015 18:45

And I know I shouldn't have sworn at them but I have had to put up with them waking up our son and had to listen to their awful music with barely any sleep for weeks now. I snapped.

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maddening · 19/05/2015 18:49

Tell the landlord you plan to go to environmental health - the landlord may want to assist as he has to declare all neighbour disputes if selling the property.

Yes - you expect noise in a terraced house but this sounds like it has moved in to the realms of "unrespasonable" - the fact that the son said he could do what he liked as noise is to be expected in a terraced house indicates to me that they have had trouble with EH before imo.

And I would not fight if I were renting - I would move - actually going down EH route is a hard slog for the complainant.

MicrochipsAndMemories · 19/05/2015 19:36

I don't know who their landlord is. It's a private landlord not a company unfortunately Sad

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Woobeedoo · 19/05/2015 19:50

If you don't know their landlord go straight to the council. My Gran (and several of her neighbours) had constant noise issues from a neighbour. My Gran knew the landlord so complained to him, complaints fell on deaf ears. In the end she reported the tenants constant noise and the landlords lack of action to the council. She only had to do this a few times before the landlord got peed off and got rid of the tenants.

MicrochipsAndMemories · 19/05/2015 21:55

Thanks, we've filled in the online council report form. Probably won't help but at least it feels like we're doing something and it's a whole lot more legal than going around and stabbing them in the eye. Wink

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Alexandpea · 19/05/2015 22:07

You may be able to find out from the Land Registry website who owns the neighbouring property provided it was sold in last 10 years. It costs about £4 to get a copy of the Registered Title stating name and address of owner.

Although sometimes they simply state the address of the property being purchased so this isn't fool proof, but if the property is being rented out they may have put their actual address so this is worth exploring.

I have a door banging neighbour so I know what it's like. Flowers

42andGaffaTape · 19/05/2015 22:22

If I remember correctly you will need two separate households to form the same complaint to get things moving. And yes give the landlord he'll if you can find out who they are.

404usernameNotFound · 19/05/2015 23:13

My neighbour is like this. A little meek 60 year old woman. She slams her back door with such a force it shakes our bed. She does this at 1/2am when she puts out the dog (which incidentally barks all day).
I had a word, she told me the door sticks,I asked if she could possibly fix it. That was 12 months ago.

After being woken at 2am in afraid I went all PA on her and on leaving for work at 7am slammed every door in the house and the garage door to boot. Hasn't stopped her and I'm now just letting her get on with it as the for sale sign will go up shortly and the only place I'm considering moving too is detached.

Fatmomma99 · 19/05/2015 23:39
  1. Can you contact other neighbours to find out if it's not just you - there's strength in numbers.
  1. Keep a diary. Don't make it ranting (or you'll look mad!) but the facts. Times, issue and the impact.
  1. Contact your local council (environmental health). They'll usually tell you that if they're going to contact the person, they need to name you, and this can often put people off because they don't want to admit to complaining. But as you've already spoken to the house, perhaps that won't bother you. The diary will help with this.
  1. The REALLY grown-up and assertive thing to do (the one I wouldn't dare do in a million years) is keep a diary for a couple of days, and put a copy of it through their door with a note explaining that this is why their behaviour is impacting on you and asking them to be more considerate.

Good luck, and all the best to you. x

Hope you all get some sleep.

FUNM · 20/05/2015 00:13

I completely sympathize with you. the problems is when things escalate between neighbours, if they know they are annoying you they do it on purpose. It would be nice to have reasonable neighbours but if you have tried speaking to them about it and they still do it then approach the landlord, then environmental health.

It is annoying when you like living somewhere and other people ruin it. you should not have to move and be inconvenienced. Maybe your landlord could invest in noise insulation :) www.soundstop.co.uk/

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