Baby sleeping in our room

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Are me and my OH being unreasonable to keep our daughter in our room a bit longer?

She is going to be 6 months in a few weeks, and we both don't want her to leave our room yet. We are not planning on keeping her in there until she is 1 or anything, but decided we don't want to turf her out just yet.

Are there any negatives to this if she is already a great sleeper?

She dropped all her night feeds at about 6 weeks (lucky us) she will only have the odd one if she is feeling under the weather, she doesn't need rocking to sleep or anything like that. And she sleeps at least 5 or 6 hours but usually more like 7 or 8. She will wake at night but no tears, just quickly pop her dummy back in and she's asleep again, wakes in the morning and just rolls around talking to herself and smiling until we change her for the day (only then is she prompted to cry for a feed).

As she doesn't have much sleep association with us, and when we do take her upstairs to bed on her own if we plan on a late night, she is fine on her own, we couldn't see any reason not to keep her with us as night.

Or are we going to regret it? :)

Your're happy, baby is happy it's working for your family. It's highly unlikely she will still be in your room when she goes to university so enjoy while you can.

Of course YANBU.

DD was in our room until she was nearly a year. She was a bit like yours in terms of sleep. DS until 18m but he was a terrible sleeper and co slept from about midnight on.

If you're all happy how things are then of course you're not being unreasonable!
With weaning starting at 6 months too I always think it's a lot of change at once anyway as you don't know whether any (potential) disrupted sleep is down to the new room or weaning.

No. You're not being unreasonable at all! As her parents, you do what you feel is right for you. My third dc was in with us for longer than the recommended 6 months, it was more a case of logistics, we were in a very small house before moving, she's had no problems with separation or sleeping. We have no 'rod' for our backs! She went into her own room after we moved and has never had a bad night.

You can have your own child in your room as long as you like! Its YOUR child seriously, if it works then no need to change it. My 6yo is still in my room most nights. Ds1 was in a cot in my room til 9 months.

Glad we hadn't missed anything blindingly obvious about keeping her with us. Wishuponastar that was my thinking really, she's already going to be experiencing a lot of new things in the weeks to come and didn't want too much change at once. :) Thanks ladies :)

The 6 month recommendation is a minimum guideline based in SIDS risks, not a maximum, so keep her in as long as it suits you all!

Nope, DC3 stayed in our room until nearly a year old. We moved her out when we realised that DH was disturbing her when he came to bed at night (he tried to be quiet...).

The only downside we had was that we co-slept with her a lot, and it took a while for her to realise the our bed was not also her bed

I don't think YABU but that's because I'm in the same situation (DD is 5 1/2 months). I want to keep her in with us because she usually wakes at least twice (sometimes 5 times) and as I'm the one who gets up, it's a lot easier if she's in our room!! I'm jealous your DD sleeps so well.

Why would you think you would be unreasonable?

Do whatever you want!

Our dd slept in our room till she was nearly 3, we had no option as we lived in a 1/bedroom flat. Dd loved it! Lots of people share rooms with their children for a long time due to space.

Keep your dc with you as long as you want to, they will love it, you may just want the space back at some time.

Not at all. Both mine were in our room till about 1, I moved them into their own room when we were all ready and they settled well and slept happily.

OhItsYouAgain I'm sure it won't last, the day I go back to work will be the day she wakes every hour :) haha

Thanks everyone. I was guessing I was just missing something obvious that would end up biting us in the bum when we did move her, glad to know that's not the case!

I thought it was a minimum? We've still got DS in with us at 8 months at the moment. In most cultures children sleep in the same room, putting babies in a nursery asap is quite a new thing - my Dad was in with his granddad when a young child, people simply didn't have the space for a room each in larger families.
Do whatever suits you OP and your baby

I didn't move DD1 or 2 until after 1. DD3 is still in our room at 11 months I'm moving her soon possible, maybe, last baby so probably when she's 25.

They slept as they slept. DD1 always slept through, DD2 was/is a little bugger, DD3 sleeps 7-4am made no difference, in fact moving them you will need to get them used to a new environment so if you have a good sleeper enjoy the time you have!

Ours will be with us for the foreseeable future as only one bedroom. They are 4 and 5 years! They seem happy

My BIL and SIL had their DS1 in their room til he was 2, and he moved to his own room quite happily, and has no sleep issues now. If you're all happy, why move her?

YANBU
Our LO is 15 months and still in our room- we live in a 1 bed flat so don't have much choice!

All going well, baby sleeps well- once we move into a bigger place then LO will have own room.
Until then, will carry on as we are- to be honest, I've not given it much thought.

Will say though, I've never done post-natal/baby groups so I've never done the comparison/worry thing.

Who writes the rules anyway?

Will say though, I've never done post-natal/baby groups so I've never done the comparison/worry thing

I've never been to a group either. I wasn't comparing our situation to anyone elses, I had just read it so many times but seemed to be no particular reason for moving her. :)

What's wrong with keeping them in until 1? My son is 13 months and we only have a 1 bed flat, will it be harming him in some way? I like being able to soothe him quickly when he's right next to me.

Of course YANBU. All of my four have been in our room well beyond 6 months and they all sleep well in their own rooms now. A year is the recommended length of time now.

I never said there was anything wrong with it, I was merely highlighting that I was planning a couple more months, and not until 1 or anything. To give people an idea of what I was asking.

I already made it clear I was not clear if there was any implications to it, so I'm talking from having no experience.

Don't get your knickers in a twist :)

Ours slept in with us until they were 5 and 8, it's fine, really, bring your children up how you want to.

OK, I was told 12 months on the children's ward but a quick google shows 6-12 months.

Knickers are not twisted I promise I was genuinely wondering if it was harmful in some way, just didn't come across well in text I guess.. From reading the thread it sounds like it's all good! Well until he's old enough to complain about his daddys snoring

I've recently started successfully getting 10 month old DD to sleep in her cot in her room, but then I end up sleeping in the bed there because it feels wrong to me to leave her on her own in the dark yes she's my pfb! :) She co sleeps in our room once she wakes up.