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to think its cringy and sad to post over facebook, photos of your new car, with your partner posting

51 replies

teddyreadygo · 18/05/2015 21:59

about how proud of them they are and how they deserve it, que millions of messages about how this person deserves it

errrr, it's just the deserved part that made me cringe inside

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 18/05/2015 23:09

To be honest I find it a bit weird that people post to their partners at all on Facebook. Why not just save yourself the effort of typing and yell up the stairs "oy babes - your new wheels - you totes deserve it!" Or whatever you want to say.

Surely FB is about keeping in touch with people who don't live in your house?

AlwaysAFool · 18/05/2015 23:12

Oops I fully intended on boasting my 1st car on fb since I have skinted myself for over a year to learn to drive one And is necessary for my business to progress.
I'D think id deserved it too.

A car is generally a luxury but is earned therfore deserved. Gushing is ott but general praise is granted since it is fb which is 99% attention seeking

wickedwitchNE · 18/05/2015 23:15

I LOVE my first car. It's 20 years old, and my grandad gave it to me. It has given me an unbelievable amount of independence with my 1yo DD, and I was super proud of passing my test (and finally being able to drive said car), so yes I shared a photo on Facebook of it. Just like I shared photos of myself graduating, and we will probably put some wedding photos up.
Just trying to explain for those that don't understand why anyone would post a car photo. I don't think it's cringey, I use Facebook for a very specific reason - to keep in touch with family and friends across the country and share life events. This is one!

wickedwitchNE · 18/05/2015 23:16

I realise it isn't relevant at all how old the car is - I would have done the same if it was brand new!

Postchildrenpregranny · 18/05/2015 23:18

I think if I bought (my dream) Mazda MX5 or BMW Z4 I might .Otherwise not so much....

MidniteScribbler · 19/05/2015 00:23

Why are you friends with someone if you don't like them or are jealous of them?

The people I have on my facebook are actually people I like. I'm happy to give a thumbs up to their photos, laugh at their jokes and comment on their good fortune.

WalterMittyish · 19/05/2015 01:09

It's possible to like someone, overall, but still find some of the things they do a bit cringey or crap.

No one thinks each and every one of their friends is perfect in every way, all of the time.

I know some lovely people who post utter shite on FB. Doesn't mean I don't like them as a person, on balance.

Redglitter · 19/05/2015 01:15

Blush I'm guilty of car posting. I posted pics of my car when I got it because it's the first brand new car I've had, the most expensive and chock full of gadgets and I just love it (even 18 months later I still love it)

thankfully all my friends humoured me (or laughed at me behind my back)

Wagglebee · 19/05/2015 02:34

I don't really get the car thing. I mean there's a certain car I've always wanted but I wouldn't expect anyone else to be impressed or interested if I bought one.

A relative was peeved with me and eventually I found out it was because when I'd seem their new car I'd only said "nice car" to them and not asked to sit in it or gushed enough. Confused

It's just a car. Not the same as child pictures and achievements or even holidays imo. It's an object.

sykadelic · 19/05/2015 02:36

This was totally me last week. Posting a photo of my "new" (to me) car and how happy I am about it.

Proud is the wrong word for it though. I'm very happy. I've saved and sacrificed and had nothing but car troubles for years and I most definitely am extremely happy every time I get in the car with AC that can carry more than 2 people (electric windows and curtain airbags are a plus too!). It's the newest car we own (2010+ as opposed to my late 90's vehicles).

Lots of people have commented how happy they are for me and how I deserve it. I think they mean I deserve to be happy and safe though, and yeah, probably that I deserve a nice shiny car instead of a rusty pick-up.

Wagglebee · 19/05/2015 02:38

Btw posting a pic in itself is fine to me. In a 'Ta-da! I'm feeling pretty fancy.' way. But saying how much you deserve it, hinting that it cost a lot or expecting praise is cringy I agree.

MistressMerryWeather · 19/05/2015 03:08

Feh, meh, fleh...

Maybe they do deserve it? I bloody do.

Stop cringing and smile.

Squirrel78 · 19/05/2015 04:06

Facebook is all about showing off and getting feedback and validation from others whilst thinly disguising it as "news". The constant drip drip of vacuous egotistical brain clutter, designed to make the poster feel superior to the reader has a detrimental effect on us all.

differentnameforthis · 19/05/2015 05:12

People can post what they like...it's their space that you have requested (or accepted) to be in, so if you don't like it....step away.

Unless you would walk into someone's home & tell them it is 'cringy' and 'sad' to be proud of their new car, you need to get a life.

Sallystyle · 19/05/2015 05:34

I bragged about getting my car.

It was my first ever car, after passing my test at aged 33 and finding it all really hard.

I was so happy to have a car.

Thankfully I only have people I like on FB and people who are my friends who are happy for me when I am happy.

And yeah, I deserved it. I overcome a lot of fears to learn how to drive and it took me years to get the courage to do it.

Diamond23 · 19/05/2015 05:59

I think the actual posing is a bit cringy- a bit ford dealership "motor of the day"

Can sort of understand it with a db7 or something, but embarrassing if it's an Audi

Lavenderice · 19/05/2015 07:49

I predominantly use Facebook for keeping in touch with my fiends all over the world. I never repost any of the "if you love your son......I have the best sister in the world" stuff. Three years ago, after 3 months of having to get public transport whilst waiting for my car to be delivered (they lost the order) and my friends giggling at all my "standing in the rain at bus stop" statuses. I finally posted a pic of the new car. I don't think any of my friends were particularly, impressed, or bothered. They were just all happy for me.

Now hoik up your judgy pants and jog on.

ohtheholidays · 19/05/2015 07:56

We got a new car,first time either myself or DH have had a new car and it's lovely.But I've never felt the need to post about it on Facebook let alone add pictures.

nornironrock · 19/05/2015 08:22

This is just petty jealousy. Some people share pics of new cars because they worked hard to get them, and yes, feel a bit proud of themselves. So what??? If you don't like it, scroll past. I had a friend who posted endless pictures equating their fucking dog to having a child... I unfriended them. I didn't complain on another social network!

Is this really any different to the endless posts of people on holiday, or at dinner (I'd rather chat with my wife than take a picture of food though...)?

Facebook is a SOCIAL network - a reflection of society. There are bits of society we like, and bits we don't. I'm not sure it's worth slagging people off for....

Can we please stop judging other people for what they have and how they feel about it?

Twirlwirlywoo · 19/05/2015 08:28

I am not into cars but buying a new car or new to you (used) car is still a rather large purchase for most of us and therefore relatively significant in our lives. If you are spending a significant amount of money on something most of us want to like our purchase, wouldn't we??

I quite like to see friends of mine happy and don't see this as gloaty. They are happy and perhaps deserve it because they maybe have had to save hard, work hard or go without other things to afford it.

Why does having something nice or achieving something good always stir up such negative feelings in other people?

If they are genuine friends why can you not be happy that they are happy?

If these are vile gloaty type people then distance yourself from them rather than stay involved and sneer at what they do.

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teddyreadygo · 19/05/2015 14:37

i can assure you it is not jealousy.

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Minus2seventy3 · 19/05/2015 15:03

If it's not jealousy, then just live and let live, surely? Skip past the post, and like/comment on something that interests you. World would be a pretty boring place of we all had the same likes, aspirations and tastes...

MistressMerryWeather · 19/05/2015 15:13

You right, it's not jealousy.

It's envy.

SuperFlyHigh · 19/05/2015 15:35

It's a bit sad but horses for courses.

I do find it strange/sad that some people on FB feel the need to show the world how much they're loved/wanted eg not just in terms of love (that too) but also by material things.

I know one woman - her OH had had an affair and left her with 2 young DC, she'd always wanted marriage but he never proposed. She'd email me about the OW and how much she hated her (naturally). When they got back together it was great and I was pleased for her but she always seems to be posting her latest holiday (always glamourous and top notch) or her 40th birthday party and gifts (designer natch). I feel glad that in a way I don't have to boost my confidence like doing what she does!

Another friend more a relative (adopted) has everything the woman above has/had - house with swimming pool huge garden etc, I know she wants to move to France too but she seems to have a different attitude to the woman above - less boastful - however I 'know' the relative more than the first woman... see?

Then again I don't do bragging and new cars mean nothing to me...!

SuperFlyHigh · 19/05/2015 15:36

Different but some people would have no qualms about walking into another person's house and telling them their new car or more them bragging about it, was sad and cringy. which it is a bit!

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