To be annoyed about this

[WeeBitChubs]

Name changed for this.

I am usually a healthy weight based on bmi, but normally at the higher end of the healthy range (5'8" and between 11 and 11 and a half stone). After having DC1 I have been struggling a bit with my weight (now weigh 12 stone 9 lbs). Purely down to eating all the wrong things (I am working on that) and being inactive (recently started running again and regularly going to exercise classes). I was heavier at one point after being preg (13 stone) and am delighted with the healthy changes I have made, especially being able to run again which I love.

Anyway, I was visiting home recently with my first DC (20 weeks). Was standing chatting to a relative when she suddenly stopped and said:

Relative: "Have you put some weight on old girl?"
Me: "oh maybe"
Relative: "you have I think, across the hips, since I saw you last" (I was heavily pregnant when she saw me last).

Anyway, I sort of smiled (not laughed) it off and we carried on. Later my DC started crying. DC was really tired so I left the lthe living room and went next door to settle DC. Standing rocking DC to sleep and the relative came up behind me, poked me in the back fat, laughed and said:

Relative: "you HAVE put on the beef hahaha"!

Me: "what a nasty thing to say"!
Relative: "oh haha"
Me: "no, horrible, really horrible"
Relative: "don't be so touchy. It's not a nasty thing to say, it's just factual! It's not like I called you an ill-mannered bastard or something"

Anyway, we carried on with no further arguments. Not going to fall out about it, but I am still so annoyed she said it. AIBU / massively over sensitive? Having some other problems atm so don't know if it's just me feeling shit about myself in general and therefore not able to take a joke / comment...

Fucking rude. Would ever bother me to fall out with a rude relative.

No, I honestly didn't!

I was just answering your question, you were wondering whether you were overreacting and I thought you were a bit, and said why.

And yes, I am skinny. That's just factual. I wasn't trying to upset you, really I wasn't.

Thanks all.

You didn't really upset me George. My relative did though... Like you say we are all different and you sound gorgeous (Gorge George ha)!

Yanbu they were rude to point and poke and then not apologise for insulting you.

It wasnt said out of concern and the prodding was basically tuanting you.
You have the right to be miffed about this and I would take a few steps bacl from this person if needed.

my "lovely" dsis pointed out my weight gain and I let it slide but later found out that when my pfb was only about 12wks she told someone she bumped into that I was struggling to lose the baby weight!

Think people who feel the need to do this have thier own issues and feel the need to bring people down under the guise of having a laugh.

So very rude. Why are they so invested in your weight and making you feel upset OP? Are they jealous? Normally a bully?

I have posted this before but will do so again.

"I can lose the weight. You, on the other hand, will always be a twat"

"It's not like I called you an ill-mannered bastard or something"
Oh, the irony!

How horrible. Hadn't seen my father for a few years due to his rather disgusting lifestyle, despite him begging me to, thought I ought to be the better person and went to visit him, first thing he said was 'You've got very fat in the face, I didn't recognise you.' Funnily enough that was my last visit.

Mamma, why didn't I say that??

Maybe because I was sat in my favourite cafe, relaxed and having a pre school run coffee and you were under duress brought on by your relatives rudeness!