To not want to do DDs homework this evening?

[UnspecialSnowflake]

I am so bloody sick of the homework the school sends home. DD is in year two, and every half term we get given a sheet with a list of homework projects on it, one to be done each week, in any order we want.

Every single sodding project involves either model making, doing a PowerPoint, creating a fact sheet or a poster or some other sort of research which is far beyond the solo abilities of the average seven year old. Maybe I'm being a brat but I don't want To spend yet another evening creating a fucking fact file on some random animal. I want her to have a maths sheet, or some spellings to learn, or maybe some comprehension, or just something that she can do mostly by herself.

As far as I can see all the DCs in her class are learning from these homework projects is that your parents do the bulk of your homework for you. And the very worst thing is that these efforts don't get marked by the teacher, the children mark each other's parents work.

Argh, rant over.

just... don't do them?

Don't do it.

That feels good doesn't it?

So many parents complained about these project type things that the DDs' school scraped them.

Just don't do it

Tell them you're leaving the country for the whole holiday.

Yanbu.

I'm in the let kids play and eat and sleep rather than stress them.out with homework camp.

they have them six hours a day Wtf are they doing if they still need to spend hours if an evening doing stuff.

It sucks family time away and serves no purpose but to cause a fight and get everyone upset

I have this hissy fit every week and then I go and do the homework anyway because I am a swot.

DD wouldn't cope if we didn't do it, she's a stickler for rules and can't bear to get in trouble at school.

People have complained and the response has been "this is how we do things in this school, we are not going to change". I've just re read the homework sheet and realised that this one is a sodding presentation, so that'll be half the evening spent getting DD to copy out facts about snails onto sheets of paper so she can read them out to the class.

Yanbu.

There was a quiet, parent-led rebellion at dd's school. I didn't know about it (she was in YR and I work) but the outcome was a lot of meetings and workshops to discuss what parents wanted in terms of homework.

So now they get homework on regular days (over a weekend), nothing in the holidays, no projects, a time limit after which they have to stop, and a rule that if they can't do it by themselves then they write a note to the teacher explaining the problem.

It is made very clear that you're not meant to help your child, other than providing a quiet place to work, pencils, appropriate reference materials etc.

It's one of the reasons I really like her school.

NoParking, that's excatly the kind of homework I'd like to see coming home. I'm not anti homework for primary aged children, I just think it should be something they can do by themselves and not take too much time. I just cannot see the point in homework where the parent does most of the work.

Don't do it. Give your reasons, in writing, to the class teacher. Copy in the head. Have a chat with some of the other parents to see if they would be prepared to do the same.

A lot of children find this sort of homework extremely stressful. Tell the teacher you will be concentrating on reading, spelling and maths instead (Khan academy is fantastic for maths, both the app and the website).

Yanbu. As a parent and as a teacher I bloody detest homework.

YANBU

YANBU- I don't see why they don't just give traditional homework appropriate for children in that age group.

Project work for primary school children appears to have little/zero benefit.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b04dmxwl

This BBC iplayer episode of the Educators features John McHattie discussing such matters. Well worth listening to, as are most of the other episodes.

I just get Ds to go it straight away. All year he gets homework every night anyway so he's used to it. Straight away sit down, do project. Then relaxing week

Sounds like our school. Only I like that sort of home work and I disagree it's not suitable for a 7 year old - unless you are competing with the parent-done homework others hand in.
Let your dd do it to the best of her abilities. It may not look the way you think it should (and this can be quite stressful when you see the amazing things other parents children produce) but it will be genuine and she'll learn how to do it with practice.

We have the project thing. There was uproar from the parents and it was toned down to "pick 3 from 9 options".

"DD wouldn't cope if we didn't do it, she's a stickler for rules and can't bear to get in trouble at school. "

Why would she get in trouble?

We have similar homework. I really don't see the benefit in me doing any of it, so dd does hers on her own. All I do is make sure she has the right material to hand.
She is very proud of her own work and often tells me things like "Tim cried because his dad wouldn't let him help build the model of xyz".

Ds (5) would be in trouble if he didn't do his homework also. Usually whatever the homework if that evening is part of the work the next day so they would start every day behind. Ie today DS has to read a book by a certain author and write his three favourite things about it ( thin book), as tomorrow morning the author is coming to their school. So if he didn't read book he wouldn't know what they talking about

She'd think she'd be getting into trouble, and that would make her upset and anxious. A number of children in her class recently got into trouble for not doing their reading at home, she wasn't one of them but it put the fear of God into her about not doing homework. She really wouldn't cope with not doing it.

YABU to do it.
It's not supposed to be homework for adults.
Let them know that the homework they have set is beyond her capabilities so she isn't able to do it as it is set.
Repeat
Repeat
If you can, see if other parents will repeat too, but don't do it.

Don't do it. Give your DD the materials she needs and let her get on with it the best she can. But she will learn next to nothing if you are doing the bulk of the work for her.

I am opposed to homework in primary school, and there is substantial research that indicates it is of very little to no benefit at all. The amount of stress it can create often outweighs the slight possibility of educational benefit anyway.

Just let your DD get on with it then, don't help her, point her in the right direction of the snail book and let her do whatever she wants.

Homework does drive me mad. I'm not sure if I was just a swotty child or if things were different, but every week we have stress and tears over homework. Often before she even knows what it is. Dd is ye4 and hates homework with a passion.

She currently is filling a times table square and the slamming and sulking and tears are ridiculous. She knows what she is doing she is just objecting as in her worlds she's been at school all day and now is her free time.

She does have a point. I am lucky and finish work at 3pm. I feel sorry for those parents working in more stressful jobs than mine coming home and dealing with this as well.