Dbil is getting married. He was dh's best man but did nothing to organise stag etc and turned up on the day and did a speech. All good. Now dh is best man he is expected to plan 2 stags. One for 5 of them and one for 15 as dbil wants a big one and an intimate one.
We live 4 hours away so dh suggested smaller one on a Friday night and bigger one the following day. This means dh only has to travel back once so will save petrol but also means only one weekend away from me and our young dc.
others have got together as they all live near each other and planned the two events that they want dh to organise. It all sounds really fun but now is over 2 weekends and we're looking at it costing at least £400 and probably more. We have the money but not hugely wealthy and dh doesn't want to spend that kind of money.
I'm guessing this is probably standard? Dh went bowling and I had a nice meal and did a murder mystery game. All very cheap as friends were young and had no money. I probably am bu but I feel bad for dh. He wants to support his brother but says he'd rather spend the money and time on us going somewhere. I think we'll have to suck it up. I wouldn't mind if I thought dh would enjoy it.