Or just being self indulgent

[TangledUpInGin]

About finally getting financial closure from my stbxh and being sat here with tears streaming down my face? He was a total fucking arse who had an affair and I kicked him out so why on gods earth am I doing this???

I did similar when my exh (who I left for being a total git in many ways) told me, after a year, that he started dating someone. I left him. I didn't want him back. But it still made me cry. Odd isn't it?

Neither unreasonable nor self indulgent, just human. Have some more gin

Neither- if you e loved someone enough to marry them and be a family, it would be weird if it didn't hurt or take time to heal. Anyone not feeling pain is likely avoiding with the fuel of anger behind them. Have a cry and a big bath

It's normal to grieve for what might have been. It means you're not hard hearted. It will fade.

I do think there's part of it being final. He's not going to come back begging to be forgiven. This is it. Not that there would be a gnats chuffs chance of that happening. Just that's it.