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AIBU to be annoyed at neighbours children

52 replies

chuckieegg2008 · 15/05/2015 19:28

My neighbours daughter(and her friends) is 13 and has recently started jumping my wall outside of my house which means she gets to her house quicker.
The wall is low and is easy to jump, its right outside of my lounge window and after a day at work and when the kids are in bed the last thing i want is 4 teenage girls running around outside my house, i just want to relax.
Now that the weathers better i always put garden chairs up against the wall, now they are jumping the wall onto the chairs!
Ive spoken to her once and told her not to jump my wall but has she listened, No.
AIBU?

OP posts:
D0oinMeCleanin · 16/05/2015 00:36

Obviously standing on your chairs is not on and if you've asked her to stop she should have stopped but can I ask why her cutting through your garden means you can't relax?

We used to do this to my Gran's neighbours. One side let us, the other didn't. One side is lovely. My children play in her garden now because the sun stays longer in her side. We feed her cat when she goes away. The other side is a bit anal, if I'm being polite.

Would it not be easier just to ask them not to step on the chairs and leave them to it? Neighbourly relations and all.

Assuming they are just cutting through and not actually hanging about in your garden causing a ruckus, in which case call 101.

Shouldof · 16/05/2015 00:51

Or esio trot!

FastWindow · 16/05/2015 01:39

Blimes, I just realised I yabu'd when I meant to yanbu. Hope op got my general point. Flippin trespassers.

I got ops point that kids are taking a big shortcut straight past her window. Proper rude. Correct me if wrong?

MagelanicClouds · 16/05/2015 06:14

Replace chair with another that has 'strategic damage'. Feel free to laugh at the results and then tell her she doesn't have to pay for a new chair if she keeps out of your garden.
Failing that something big and spiky in a pot or a beehive?
Yanbu, that kind of thing would drive me nuts after a while.

bigbumtheory · 16/05/2015 13:26

She's 13, speak to her and tell her to stop it and tell her friends. Plant some honeysuckle to go up the wall and make it clear she could damage your plants.

SirChenjin · 16/05/2015 13:32

Dooin - why did you feel you had the right to cut through someone else's garden?

MokunMokun · 16/05/2015 13:37

If you've only spoken to her once then you need to try again and speak to her parents. Of course she shouldn't be doing this. If you don't get any joy then yes, you need to set up a booby trap.

LuisSuarezTeeth · 16/05/2015 13:39

PENGUIN BOLLARDS

Pipbin · 16/05/2015 13:40

We used to do this to my Gran's neighbours. One side let us, the other didn't. One side is lovely. My children play in her garden now because the sun stays longer in her side. We feed her cat when she goes away. The other side is a bit anal, if I'm being polite.

I don't think that not wanting random children running through your garden is being 'anal'.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 16/05/2015 14:04

How Machiavellian of you, 5foot5, brilliant! Grin

AuntieDee · 16/05/2015 14:46

Water bomb her from the upstairs window ;)

TheWildRumpyPumpus · 16/05/2015 14:55

Turn the sprinkler on the second she vaults over the wall.

findingmyfeet12 · 16/05/2015 14:56

My sister has an issue with her neighbours children climbing the fence into her back garden. Once there they meddle with stuff and trample the vegetables (her pride and joy).

The children are pre teens but very cheeky bordering on rude. My sister has spoken to their father (a bit of a thug) and his response was "they're just kids. What do want me to do? You're not allowed to hit kids these days". Shock

CocoaBeans · 16/05/2015 14:56

I wouldn't be impressed. There is no fence/wall between our drive and the NDN but I have told the DCs not to go across their drive and to go to the end and along the path when they need to go past.

ConfusedInBath · 16/05/2015 15:07

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findingmyfeet12 · 16/05/2015 15:10

Dooin, why is it anal to expect to have exclusive use of your own property? I wouldn't dream of using someone else's garden unless they had brought up the subject and offered it first. By doing that you force them into an awful situation where if they object people think they are being "anal" and actually they just value their privacy.

I too used to play in a neighbours garden as a child because she was like a grandmother to me and my parents were happy for her to pop round via a gate between our two gardens whenever she wanted to. She helped herself to vegetables from our garden and my dad did most of her gardening for her. This situation transpired after years of friendship though and none of these liberties were taken for granted. They were offered first.

findingmyfeet12 · 16/05/2015 15:13

Actually my brother was accused (aged about 10) of being in a group of boys who had repeatedly kicked a football into another neighbours front garden during a game. My mum marched him round to apologise and the old lady who had accused him burst into tears and invited them in for a drink!

Needless to say though, he never did it again!

nemo81 · 16/05/2015 15:17

Trelis?

GatoradeMeBitch · 16/05/2015 15:32

Anti-theft paint on the wall? Or get plannign permission to build the wall hgiher?

peltata · 16/05/2015 15:35

Clamp her and charge a release fee Smile

Seriously, if it is really annoying speak to the parents. If it is mildly annoying, set a booby trap and have some fun at the same time.

ItBoilsMyPiss · 16/05/2015 17:51

5foot5 Are you my DH? Thats the sort of thing he'd say.

balletnotlacrosse · 16/05/2015 22:23

Why is there always some arsehole who decides that anyone who wants a bit of peace and quiet in their own home is 'anal'. They are, presumably, the parents of the annoying obnoxious kids that no one really likes.

BaronVonShush · 16/05/2015 22:30

I have a real thing about people using my garden. Once my neighbour dumped the contents of his van in our garden as there wasn't space in his and he was lending his van to a mate. I was fucking livid. But too chicken to say anything. Wimp.

Obvs with an 11 year old I would be having a word. Or sending DH round to talk to the parents. Wink

5Foot5 · 16/05/2015 22:45

And reading The Twits it would seem.

No not read it but I recognise the title. It is a Roald Dahl isn't it? What happens in there then?

Or esio trot!

Not read that either but I did see that lovely TV adaptation with Judi Dench and Dustin Hoffman. Is incremental change a thing with Dahl then?

BaronVonShush · 16/05/2015 22:50

Mrs Twit keeps adding a little disc of wood to the end of Mr Twit's walking stick to make him think he is shrinking. Great book!