had a horrendous 18 months with controlling exp
A few of his many demands were...
-if you don't travel to the city, and to my flat every single weekend to either drop or collect DS for contact, I will stop paying child maintenance
-if you don't agree to me having DS on Christmas day (the agreement for years has been that DS is with me) then I will take you to court
-if you don't agree to me having DS every single wkend fri-Sun evening I will take you to court to get 50/50 custody so i do not have to pay any child maintenance
-if you dare contact csa I will quit my job so as not to pay anything (but would deduct cm as and when he saw fit anyway)
so with the help and support of mumsnetters I plucked up the courage to say fine, take me to court.
he never got what he wanted of course. but has indeed quit his well paid job after I contacted cms, I was due to receive 450pm but days before that payment was due he stopped working so never did get a payment and since then have received not a single penny
this man has 5+ flats which he rents out undeclared to hmrc. (I have reported him 3 separate times already to the council and hmrc and will continue to do so)
on top of that he buys flats, renovates them and then sells them. although I have no proof of this on paper 
he is 10years older than me
I am on a low wage. really low (650pm) so naturally, struggle. I get child tax and working tax credits etc but when all the bills have came off, I am left with no disposable income.
at court a few days ago he sat in front of me and our lawyers saying how he wants a 50/50 split of school holidays because he wants to take DS on a skiing holiday at easter, then again somewhere hot with a beach in the summer, and then to Disneyland Florida in October. and he wanted to know what my exact working hours are so that he can have DS throughout the week also because he will now be starting his own business
he was an accountant for years but in all the time I have known him, he has NEVER mentioned ever wanting to start his own business-I know him only too well and the sole motivation for starting a business will be because he can manipulate income and hours worked to cms therefore paying me next to nothing, if anything
on top of all those wonderful holidays, he pays for private ski lessons, and several other extra curricular activities. at Christmas when he stopped payments because I didn't agree with his demands, he said 'well you must be doing alright now anyway since your living with ***, so you won't need the money' (my DP) 
Oh and he keeps offering to pay for DS to go to a few paying school.
he is well aware of my financial hardship. and I have since split with dp. he is happy to see me struggle, I think he enjoys it.
my lawyer said there is nothing she can do about this
really???? I know contact and cm is separated but now the contact court order is in place does she now have nothing to do with me, this is a separate issue.
we are due to go to mediation but I cannot afford any more bills so will have to now decline I can just feed myself and DS so although I think it might be beneficial to attend mediation I simply cannot afford to pay anything other than rent, c.tax, gas and electric, food petrol and telephone line
cms are being hopeless and have to take his word when he says he doesn't own 5+ properties which he rents out
is this y life from now on? can I not fight him for child maintenance my son deserves?
I realise that would in love costs but figure it would be money well spent in the long run if anything comes of it