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AIBU?

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To want to tell my neighbour to eat shit and die?

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OhWhatAPalaver · 14/05/2015 13:58

My daughter has nightmares and night terrors and we live in a gf flat. My neighbour upstairs from us has complained on a couple of occasions about dd's 'shouting and screaming'. How should I deal with the interfering cow in a civil way? Or am I unreasonable for thinking she is unreasonable?!

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OhWhatAPalaver · 14/05/2015 15:14

Spoken to health visitors as I work with them. They are all in agreement that it's a phase and nothing can be done about it.

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goddessofsmallthings · 14/05/2015 15:52

You are unhinged being deeply unreasonable to want your neighbour to 'eat shit and die' over this issue?

Why not invite her for a cuppa and explain the situation?

elbowsdontsing2 · 14/05/2015 16:21

have you looked into what might be causeing the nightmares, when mine was little it was anything that had certain food colouring in especially blue like blue smarties or blue pop i knew they would have a nightmare.( he would have these while at friends house or partys)

JoanHickson · 14/05/2015 16:55

I am sure if op and the neighbour were getting decent sleep, they would sit down with a nice tea.

BuzzardBird · 14/05/2015 17:01

OP, have you tried this?

You will be knackered and get no sleep for a few weeks but;

Make a note of the time she has them.

Once you have established a pattern gently wake her 10 mins before they normally start. What will happen is the terror will come later in the night. Make a note of that time and then the next night wake her 10 mins before that time too. And so on.

Eventually you will make the night terrors come later and later until they don't happen when she is asleep. She will adjust to this and they will stop.

It only took a few nights of this to help DD and it was worth it as she also slept walked and could have got hurt.

I hope this helps.

drumKitten · 14/05/2015 17:05

Yabu for your thread title alone. It's not your fault that your DD has night terrors but it's not your neighbours fault that she is disturbed by them.

LadyRainicorn · 14/05/2015 17:11

Another tuppence worth of advice was something we got from other parents - if you can, get her to go to the toilet. Seemed to break the stage of the sleep cycle my ddwas 'stuck' at fir the night terrors and
now she has segued into sleepwalking it stops that as well (as long as you can
persuade her to get to the toilet and go...)

on the actual AIBU - if you've explained and apologised and she's still ranting and raving? Then yanbu to come and rant on here

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OhWhatAPalaver · 14/05/2015 18:40

Obviously I don't really want my neighbour to eat shit and die, it's just really difficult to deal with as it is without her going on at me. She even said her lodger might move out because of it and no doubt she will blame me and my dd he does. It doesn't help that she is besotted with her lodger either :/

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OhWhatAPalaver · 14/05/2015 18:44

Thanks for the tips re: night terrors as well. I've noticed a distinct pattern, they don't happen that often but when they do her waking behaviour is always more challenging as well and she struggles with me dropping her at nursery. It's swhen something is bothering her and she can't communcate it properly, though her speech is great, I just don't think she knows how to explain what's bothering her so it comes out as night terrors and challenging behaviour.

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