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To not know how old I was when I got my first period?

189 replies

Talismania · 13/05/2015 23:39

I have a new GP and I was asked this at my first appointment. I remember what house I lived in at the time so could say it was sometime between the ages of 10 and 15, but beyond that I have no idea. GP was surprised. Is this something most women remember?

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farewellfigure · 14/05/2015 11:33

It was the 8th of August but I can't remember how old I was. Weird. We were camping and the loos weren't exactly brilliant!

squoosh · 14/05/2015 11:35

I have no memory of my first period at all.

Ludways · 14/05/2015 11:37

I know the month and year but I was 15 so more likely to remember than someone younger, I guess. Although it's easy as I was away from home and doing something very specific, so also easy to remember.

Momagain1 · 14/05/2015 11:44

Mine started a week after my 12th birthday, so, first week of March 1977.

If there was no drama to it, and it wasnt on or near something memorable like a birthday or holiday, i can see being vague as to the exact date. But a 5 year range, that stretches from primary to secondary school, from playground to perfume (as the song says) from possibly a rather early 10 to a kinda of late-ish 16, seems unusually vague!

Having moved a lot, i have answered this question numerable times, usually with the follow up question regarding regularity, severity if symptoms, number of pregnancies and how they concluded. Individually the seperate answers dont mean much, but collectively, they might. And until your other records catch up AND the doctor has reason to read them, they are part of the skeleton of your medical history.

When my dds were approaching menses, I asked my gynae about things that happened to me When I began that I had never seen as symptoms for the beginning, but was reading about as symptoms of ending. I spent the first year with horrible hot flashes. I didnt have a name for them. My mother acted as if I was just being whingey about the summer heat and probably had no idea either. I got in trouble for moving extra fans into my room in the middle of the night, for wasting water taking uneccesary (COLD) showers. For changing clothes too often on a whim and creating more laundry to be done. I was sweaty, not fashion conscious!

Surprisingly, my doctor said she had not experienced that, nor been taught that, nor heard any other reports. She admitted though, she also had never heard of comprehensive research of girls actually going through the phase. Most of what they know is from adult women reporting what they remember.

Hearing that you cant even recall when, makes me wonder what else many women wouldnt remember and report. I cant be the only girl to have had hormonal hot flashes.

TapDancingMollusc · 14/05/2015 11:59

I was 11 and I started the week before my older sister (age 16) started. This gave her even more reason to deliberately pinch/hit me and walk into me "accidentally" than before. Sad My younger sister was 17 and would take that week off college for the next year!

My family are emotionally stunted.

Momagain1 · 14/05/2015 12:02

So, yeah, my point. Asking the question may be reasonable. Menarche iis the culmination of huge physical changes, and hormones are buggers, so knowing the relative numbers of years they have been surging around affecting things surely matters.

On the other hand, as late as the turn of the millenium, most knowledge of this period of female physical development seems to have been gathered after the fact, from women just like this group, a number of whom can't remember much about the situation. The other sourse of information is girls/women with issues, so not representative of the sort of 'normal' that isnt even going to be remembered.

They ask, but the truth is, they don't have much reliable data collected in a timely manner to compare your answers with.

ButterflyUpSoHigh · 14/05/2015 12:16

Christmas Day when I was 11 :(

babyboomersrock · 14/05/2015 12:20

I was 14 and 4 months and I was delighted. I felt very grown up - and this was 1961, when 14-year-olds were still regarded as very young.

My mother, for all her faults, had had no problem telling me about periods/reproduction (she missed out the bit about sex being nice, though Smile) and as we were on holiday - Rosemarkie, in the Highlands - we had to head for the local drapery shop where she bought me enormous sanitary towels and a sanitary belt.

I remember not being able to wear my shorts for the rest of that week because I was practically waddling. I'm grateful to Mum for making it such an easy transition - I never really hated periods all the time I was having them. In fact, they made me feel powerful - when I see the misery other women have, I realise I must have been lucky.

SinisterBunnyMonth · 14/05/2015 12:23

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BreconBeBuggered · 14/05/2015 12:54

My first was about a week into a three-week foreign exchange trip. My mother had had the sense to send me off with sanitary protection just in case, but at 14 I was still convinced nothing like that was ever going to happen to me. It was lucky Mum had a better grasp of reality than I did, because I had no clue how to convey any of this to my non-English-speaking host family, and I was far too embarrassed to talk about it with my own teacher.

VacantExpression · 14/05/2015 13:04

I remember it was a Thursday. And I was 13. I think. or 14?

CookPassBabtrigde · 14/05/2015 13:05

I remember my aunt telling me how she started - she was 10 and had no idea what periods were at all. My nana gave her some pads and said "this will happen until you're 50" and left it at that.
My aunt was devastated, because she thought that meant she would bleed continuously until she was 50. And then she was very worried a few days later when it stopped!

ClareAbshire · 14/05/2015 13:08

Yes, I do remember certainly the month as it was Febuary half term and we were on holiday. It was the year I was in year 7 so I must have been 12 and a few months.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 14/05/2015 13:10

I can't remember, around 14 or possibly 15 I think. I remember being later than all my friends.

thewholedamntown · 14/05/2015 13:13

I barely remember but think I was about 13. I don't think I was an early starter nor late.
Desperately trying to remember now.

JohnCusacksWife · 14/05/2015 13:23

Have no idea what age I was. I remember the day and what i was wearing but have no clue whether I was 11/12/13!

EBearhug · 14/05/2015 13:39

I don't know when any of my friends started, except one, who when we were 11 and on a school trip, ended up with a lot of the girls in the dorm being competitively helpful and concerned - the one useful thing done was fetching the woman teacher on the trip, who told everyone else to get back to bed and then just dealt with it.

AwayAndRunUpMaHumf · 14/05/2015 13:39

I can't remember when I got my first period, however can remember the date I first had sex Blush

MammaTJ · 14/05/2015 13:44

4th February 1979. I was 11 years old and it was the day after DSis's birthday.

The only time I can think it would be a relevant question for a Dr to ask though is if you were taking your own DD to see them for delayed periods. DDs tend to follow their mothers in when they start, so it would be something worth knowing then.

Marynary · 14/05/2015 13:48

I think it must be quite unusual to not remember roughly how old you are as it is a major milestone in life.

Marynary · 14/05/2015 13:48

roughly how old you are were

DazzleU · 14/05/2015 13:54

Never been asked - only know as I was still at Primary - so must have been 11. Couldn't be more accurate.

Was shocked a few years ago when a friend who horrified her DD started at 11 but nearer 12 already at secondary school. She couldn't believe it was normal to start so young - I though thought it was fairly normal - 11-12 being time most girls start.

balletnotlacrosse · 14/05/2015 13:58

It was around the time of my 14th birthday. I thought that was a pretty normal age, but going on this thread I was quite late.

Terryble · 14/05/2015 14:12

My 16th birthday.

123rd · 14/05/2015 14:14

I can't remember with any certainty. Around 14 ish???