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To be annoyed at DH re bedtime

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Marvel101 · 12/05/2015 21:26

DS is normally in bed at 8 - asleep by 8.30. He really needs a good night sleep as he can be moody in school. DH is usually working late so we have a good routine

DH is home early tonight and is doing the bedtime - although I wish I'd insisted I do it. He knows when DS should be asleep but at 8 he was chopping up a fruit salad for DS with no sense of getting a move on because it was bedtime.

DH only starts coming up the stairs with DS at about 8.45. Picks a long book to read to DS. Now it's 9.15 and he's in chatting to DS.

Next he'll go downstairs and be making noise which will keep DS awake longer. He doesn't seem to get that DS can hear every noise upstairs even though I've told him DS can't sleep with the noise.

Yes I know it probably sounds like he's such a great dad - and he is. But this slowness is making my blood boil!

It's not like he doesn't get to spend plenty of time with DS as he's with him every morning - and we can share bedtimes at the weekends

If DS was really easygoing it wouldn't be an issue but sometimes DS has stropes in school and I want to do everything to avoid that.

If I remind him to hurry up a bit I'm a nag
Angry

OP posts:
Tice · 12/05/2015 21:46

so you're feeling frustrated that your rules are not being followed - you are angry because you feel undermined? I'm guessing because you didnt say, but what I know 100% is that if you choose to make an issue of this you will be doing your dc more damage by keeping him awake arguing than a bit of special time with dad. YABU, but it isnt easy to step back I know, so good shout for posting here.

mayfridaycomequickly · 12/05/2015 22:01

It's hard when your tried and tested routine isn't followed but I'm guessing that it's also hard for your dh not to see ds as much as you. Let them enjoy their time together - he'll be putting himself to bed before you know it and you'll both miss reading stories.

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