Ok so I will keep this short and to the point. I have always lived in place A, not a bad town.
My DP has always lived in place B (the distance between these two places is about a 40 minute drive).
We moved in together to place B despite me still working in place A.
When I met DP she lived and worked in Place B, now she has started a great new job in place A.
So, we both live in place B and both work in place A. She drives so it's not so bad for her but I have to get a rural bus which takes about an hour and 20 minutes to get me into work (I am taking driving lessons), the bus costs me £70 per month and her petrol to and from work is about £30 a week. So between us thats £190 a month just travelling.
My family all live in place A where we work but I am not particularly close to them, whereas her family all live in place B and she is very close to them and sees them a lot.
Anyway, I asked her about 2 months ago does she think that we should move closer to work, money wise it works out so much better. She said that as we had been talking baout IVF, if we were to have a baby then her family would be great to have closeby for support and babysitting.
AIBU in thinking that this is all hypothetical? She has made no effort on her part to talk to her doctor about starting IVF. I have asked her to make an appointment for us to go, I have offered to make an appointment but it's always "we'll do it another day".
I am getting mightily fed up.
We live in council housing also, which she is reluctant to give up in favour of private renting. The place we live in is not safe for our dog as it has no garden, she has escaped this year and been run over (thankfully no damage done).
AIBU to tell her to shake a leg?