Money/anniversary AIBU

[Mrsbradfield]

Long story short, DP is not good with money, has bad credit etc but has bitten bullet and arranged debt management plan, we live together, he pays the rent, I deal with all bills.

It was our anniversary yesterday been together a year, he bought me a card, said he couldn't afford a present (I bought him a present was £15 which I thought was reasonable) I said I didn't mind if he didn't buy me a present if he was a bit short on money, we went out and had a cheap meal using taste card and had a couple of drinks to celebrate and we shared this as had put £30 aside each.

Today he gets a phone call, takes it and comes into the bedroom, when asked who it was, said it was shelter and he's signed up to donate them £20 a month. This is when he has no money left really till payday and couldn't afford to spend a small amount on an anniversary present. I mean even if it Cost less than a fiver, it would have been the thought that counts right?

AIBU?

Oh fantastic. We've rowed for 24 hours solid about my original post, we talked it out and I offered to take him out for tea so we could try to have a night on neutral ground. Get to food place, he gets a text through from his friend, that he immediately hides the phone, I saw the first line, "oh no need to be embarrassed." I went to toilet, came back and he said do you want to know the conversation? I said not really but if I
Must. He then showed me a thread of texts with his friend of 10 years, where she is saying oh this doesn't sound healthy or happy, he texted her half an hour after I got home after he'd said to me "I've never been so glad to see you" he said to her. I'm putting a brave face on, this is after he'd hugged and we'd talked and I've just paid whatever for dinner and a drink. He's now asking if this has ruined my night. I need to get out dont i? Or am I still being unreasonable trying to get him to not be a dick and slag me off to his friends? Money, relationship. It's all fucked isn't it?

By the way, I did class his friends as my friends too, but since this, not one has asked for my side of the story. I moved from s.wales to Manchester to be with him and left someone else of 6 years to be with him, and I do feel like it might be a mistake. Sorry for venting. Am very upset.

Im so sorry Hun I dont see a future with him.

((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))

Oh op just dump his arse, a year in and your organising his finances and his life because he can't? What a useless man child seriously do you intend to mix DNA with him at sometime in the future, because he sounds like a complete no hoper.

Send him out of the gene pool and pick someone who is at least competent with mo EU, he sounds like an idiot and a defensive one at that.

Bloody autocorrect money I meant money. Bet his mates are the same way, he doesn't respect you he resents you

As wiser women than I gave said, he is telling you who is is listen and then listen some more.

Doesn't look good from here but you are the one living it...