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To think open plan living is not actually that great?

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Dancergirl · 11/05/2015 14:28

In almost every homes magazine, tv programme etc these days the focus seems to be on open plan living space. Same old story - the main cook of the family feels isolated in the kitchen, everyone is doing their own thing in different rooms, families are not being together. So the answer is to knock down walls to create one big 'space' so all the family members can be together.

We currently have separate rooms downstairs although some are connected with doors. Kitchen is big enough to have a table in where we have every day meals. Sometimes I do think about going open plan but I can see huge disadvantages:

-Sometimes (especially in a bigger family) you do crave a bit of space to do your own thing and you can't really do that in one big room.

-Dh likes to listen to sports on the radio in the kitchen while the dc are watching telly in the other room. This wouldn't be easy in one big space.

-Dd1 plays piano and flute and practices in the living room. Other family members can sit in kitchen or small tv room and can do something else without having to listen to music practice.

-We are a close family but don't feel the need to spend every waking minute at home in the same room.

Do you think this open plan thing is just fashionable at the moment and we'll start craving walls soon? Or am I missing something??

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TisILeclerc · 14/05/2015 18:15

I have the best of both worlds too. I have a lounge at the front which is adults only (ie me). Then I have another lounge behind that is the dcs lounge with an extension off that which I use as a playroom for the little dcs. I then have a large kitchen diner which is where folk tend to congregate when I'm entertaining.

I have a mix of four teens and younger dcs so having lots of space and lots of spaces saves my sanity!

unlucky83 · 14/05/2015 18:51

mini Both DP and I worked full time and DD1 was in washable nappies! As I said upthread I used to set the machine up all ready to go (powder in etc) so I just had to press start as soon as I walked in in the evening ...my standard program only lasts an hour - so on at 6.30 finished by 7.30 - if I was keen I could get two loads done, or one white load (2.5hrs).
I will happily hang washing outside overnight (if it isn't too dewy and doesn't rain) it will be more or less dry in the morning or my standard tumble takes 1.5hrs...
If you have to have it on ...while you are out is safer than overnight - so at least you just lose your things rather than potentially your life.

And ...wait for it ...about an hour ago I noticed a hot burning plastic smell coming from the kitchen... found my dishwasher had developed a fault (it said check water and hadn't emptied)...have just taken the cover off to see if there is something obvious wrong before I call the engineer and I can see where some plasticky coating has melted...not saying it WOULD have actually caught fire ....but....

Marynary · 14/05/2015 18:55

I occasionally leave applicances on while we are out of the house but would never do it while we are asleep.

Artandco I know this is off topic but I'm curious- if you and your DH don't get home until 8 p.m. what time do your children eat dinner and go to bed?

Artandco · 14/05/2015 18:57

Mary - we get home around 7.30pm usually and they go to bed at 9pm. We all eat together around 8pm.

FromSeaToShining · 14/05/2015 19:25

I'm completely with you, OP. I really dislike open plan houses. I would imagine that in years to come, many people will look back at this particular design choice and roll their eyes, as we often do about past trends, and there will be a rush to rebuild walls that had been torn down.

I love having separate rooms. It was one of our main priorities when we bought this house. Open plan was an absolute deal breaker.

houghtonk76 · 14/05/2015 20:22

I'm wiv ItMustBeBedtimeSurely. When I eventually buy a home, would love an open plan kitchen / diner with sofa or window seat (small living area like a Den / Snook wiv small TV) - also wiv patio doors to garden a la Nigel Slater - PLUS a more adult & separate living area, poss wiv desk / office section for home work / business. Poss patio doors to garden may be in living room...

Green18 · 14/05/2015 21:29

Tonight we had fish pie. Very grateful for doors tonight, more than most nights.

Isabelleforyourbicycle · 14/05/2015 21:38

As I write, the kitchen is a curry infused mess, DH is watching the football and I've been on the phone to my dad. All in separate rooms, bliss.

I don't understand why the open planners keep banging on about boxed off rooms not being family orientated...it keeps my family happy and sane that we can have our own space when required.

1930s houser planners did not do much wrong IMHO.

mewkins · 14/05/2015 21:50

We have an open plan layout (was like it when we moved in, 50s house, no idea what the original layout would have been) and it works well with a baby and a 4 year old. I can do stuff in the kitchen while they are eating/playing and still be in the room. Food smells are fine, general all ok. We also have a baby gate to the kichen as this allows us to keep the baby out of the kitchen drawers/cat bowls. If we are still here when the dcs are older we will probably add a room onto the back of the house.

propelusagain · 14/05/2015 21:53

We have an externaly vented extractor above the stove, no food smells through the house.

Dancergirl · 14/05/2015 22:35

But is it noisy prop?

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propelusagain · 14/05/2015 22:41

No - it's quiet. I use it on full during the actual cooking then turn it to low while I serve. It makes no more noise than the hum of a fridge.
We have a separate lounge, it's just the kitchen/dining that are open plan, but in designated areas ( not a table in the middle of the kitchen)

Isabelleforyourbicycle · 14/05/2015 22:42

I can see the benefit of Open plan with small DC but presume once stroppy teenagers you won't see them for dust.

A separate kitchen gives me the chance to secretly stuff chocolate in my mouth whilst they are mooching around elsewhere. Smile

propelusagain · 15/05/2015 06:45

once stroppy teenagers you won't see them for dust.

Not all teenagers are stroppy.

Artandco · 15/05/2015 08:50

I don't think myself or siblings were stroppy as teenagers either. We all have a good relationship with parents and home was always a nice place to be

Dancergirl · 10/01/2016 23:22

Sorry to revive a zombie thread but it's been quoted in the Sunday Times today!

Was reading the Home section, a MN thread was mentioned and I thought, hold on a minute, that's my thread! Grin

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