Gardening or breakfast dishes?

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Who is bu here please mn jury?
Background - I'm an sahm (with a pt job). 2 dc, youngest in preschool, 15 hpw. I do all hw, laundry, admin, shopping, cooking, everything. Dh works 40 hrs per week oh. I am perfectly happy with this mon - fri.
On sat am I work 8 am till noon. Every Saturday without fail I will come back to the house being a tip, breakfast bowls still out, milk still out, lid off honey etc etc. absolutely nothing is done. I then have to set to work clearing breakfast, making lunch etc and spend the rest of the day in catchup chores.
Dh works in the garden.
My request to him is simply - please clear breakfast dishes before doing garden. He says garden won't get done unless he does it - pretty much true but still just do it after the ten mins it'll take to clear table.
Wibu?

If you're working then he should do it.

I honestly don't think some men 'see' what they've done wrong.... (in regards to tidying up)
I wonder why?

Anyway.
It is obvious he should have put it away.

Oh for goodness sake, of course he should tidy up after himself. What a lazy sod. If you make the mess, you tidy it up. Really not on that he racks up extra chores for you while you're at work.

Oh and his "the garden won't get done unless I do" is just a nicer way of saying "I can leave the house mess, because if I don't do it, you will"

I am liking these responses. Though he would argue gardening is also a chore and he only has one morning per week to do it. So, any tips please on how I make him understand prioritising basic cleanliness?

I can't believe he thinks it is an actual 'chore' anyway...

Tell him you do the garden next week and nothing in the house, and maybe it will sink in how stupid he sounds.

Or once he has done the garden, go out to the shed and get bits out and leave the garden in a mess. And when he mentions it tell you need to do XYZ in the house or it won't get done.

And then maybe he see it's not a either clear up the kitchen or do the garden and the 5 mins it takes to clear up won't impact on the garden work.

FWIW this morning I have done both breakfast and lunch made and cleared up, hang out 3 loads of washing, 1 lot of ironing and cut the grass. But then I'm a women so able to do more then one thing at once.

Is this every week? what needs done in the garden that he needs to spend a whole morning there every week? (he still should clear up regardless)

Tell him to get up 10 minutes earlier.

I'd be tempted to leave him to it all day and go out for the afternoon, see how he manages lunch and tea, but then there's a good chance I suppose he won't clean up for those either.

He won't chutney.
Clutter bug - will you marry me?
Musical - it really should be that easy shouldn't it.

I genuinely thought the responses would be 50/50.

This has all got me thinking of the actual problem, which is that he genuinely believes that hw is women's work. Whether that be me or a cleaner he doesn't care. But, for sure it's beneath him. Prat.

Yanbu i would have lost it many times with him by now.

Gardening is a joy and a treat for after the kitchen is cleaned. I would happily stay in mine all day long.