to ignore the dc

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I can hear them, fighting again. Name calling, doors slamming, shouting. Aibu to ignore them and stay hidden in my room? I'm so fed up of this, its pretty much constant, unless I am playing with ds.
I suppose at least they are in the same room, dd usually storms off to her bedroom to listen to music.

How old are they?

Mine are 5 & 9, I usually separate them or stop them doing what they're doing if it just goes & on with shouts of mum & tale telling...

6 and 11. I am just so worn out with it all. I seem to be a permanent referee, and its getting me down.

Similar story here unless I directly supervise or they are really engrossed in a game together. Gets me down! Am hoping they will grow out of it. But no, YANBU to ignore them. I often hide!!

i share your pain. its so wearing.

I had to intervene when they started throwing marbles at each other. I shouted, I hate doing that. Feel so glum.

Give yourself a break and leave them to it. Part of growing up with siblings is learning conflict resolution. They need to learn it themselves, not have you act as referee all the time.

YY to going out. A change of scene normally means a change of mood.

Took ds to the supermarket, and left dd with instructions to finish her homework before we get back. All is calmer now, mainly cos they are in different rooms!

Dh will be home from work soon, so I will have someone to talk to who won't moan, nag, whinge, demand or shout.

Fine to ignore them unless it is the case that one of them is actually picking on/ bullying the other, rather than them being equally to blame.

YANBU. My trick was always to shout up the stairs "if I have to come and sort you two out I'll take it away" (didn't specify what....) Usually resulted in hurried negotiations..