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To think that if you must let your children into the disabled viewing area

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Hurr1cane · 09/05/2015 20:24

Then you shouldn't let them climb all over another child's wheelchair and almost knock it flying and then use the excuse that there's nowhere else to go.

Fine, if there's nowhere else to go and there's space in the disabled area, by all means use it, even if staff have kicked you out twice already, but must you really put my child at risk because you can't be bothered watching your children?

Or am I being PFB about it all? I am often.

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Hurr1cane · 09/05/2015 21:06

I'll be honest, DS wasn't even bothered. It just scared me to death because we almost lost him last week to a horrific seizure.

I didn't tell DS we were leaving early I just said "good? Finished now! Fun?" And he's chatted on about fun all night so at least I managed to shield him.

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Hurr1cane · 09/05/2015 21:10

Bishop the way I see it is, a wheelchair should be seen as an extension of the body, as it's needed for someone to be able to function.

So to lean on one, push past one, or step over one, should be seen as the same as doing that to a person not in a wheelchair.

though I might be alone in that because he's my only child...

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DixieNormas · 09/05/2015 21:11

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Livingtothefull · 09/05/2015 21:19

Thanks Dixie & best wishes for your DS

BishopBrennansArse · 09/05/2015 21:20

Nope I completely agree with you. I'd object to someone stepping over my head too!

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Hurr1cane · 09/05/2015 21:40

Aww Dixie, you don't live in the north west by any chance? If you do there's loads of support I can't refer you to

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Welshmaenad · 09/05/2015 21:51

You aren't pathetic at all.

I'm incredibly stroppy and even I hesitate to challenge people sometimes, and afterwards I get quite shaky - I think as humans we're just programmed to avoid conflict. Especially when other adults in the situation are intimidating.

I've become the queen of the smile and the head tilt and the "oooh, don't touch the wheelchair honey, I wouldn't want you to hurt yourself" whilst inwardly seething at the little reprobates and the ignorant parents failing to rein them in. I'm also the queen of the passive aggressive ankle clip - the footplates on her chair are quite sharp of edge. Dd knows when I'm about to do it now and moves her feet back, so the sharp edges have more impact...

DixieNormas · 09/05/2015 22:03

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Alisvolatpropiis · 09/05/2015 22:08

I think you had the great misfortune of having your outing coincide with TwatHeads Day Out.

All those people sound horrendous, absolutely not normal behaviour!

Livingtothefull · 09/05/2015 22:08

I know what you mean Welshmaenad, I find challenging people difficult although I have got better with practice - but the kind of people who behave like this are crass/ignorant enough not to take it on board anyway. I don't like conflict & out & about with DS I just want to have a nice time without having to argue with people.

I agree that interfering with a person's wheelchair should be seen as an invasion of their personal space…sadly I am used to this with my DS too.

Stinkersmum · 09/05/2015 22:12

I'd have dragged the little shits away by their feet .....

ScooseIsLoose · 09/05/2015 22:34

I don't know how you kept your composure I would have gone nuclear! I really don't know what goes through people's minds! My dd has autism and sensory processing disorder and we have had our fair share of comments at the fact I have to take her out in a buggy even tho she's nearly 5 but we haven't had anything like your experience. Tbh I feel sorry for anyone who makes s comment/judgement about dd as I'm not afraid to put them straight and not always politely. Grin

DrCoconut · 09/05/2015 22:45

DS1 ended up leaving scouts because they just couldn't/wouldn't allow adequately for his autism and he ended up hating going. At first he had been quite up for it. Some kids just don't know how to treat others.

Wantsunshine · 09/05/2015 22:57

Wtf how do people think that they can let their kids behave like this. Kids at the age of 5 should know better but no doubt their parents have taught them bugger all. I would be horrified if my child did anything like this. So sorry your day was ruined.

If you are shy or don't feel you can approach complete arseholes like this which is understandable they do just go to anyone working at any event and let them deal with it.

Samcro · 09/05/2015 22:59

if someones child climbed over my childs wheelchair....they better have life insurance.
yanbu op and not pfb

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Hurr1cane · 10/05/2015 09:57

Thanks everyone, I feel a bit better this morning, I have all the patience in the world for children, and u wasn't annoyed at them but surely if you're going to have them in an area where there is vulnerable people, you should be watching them and making sure they aren't climbing on people's wheelchairs.

Anyway he doesn't seem bothered at all by anything as usual so I should just stop being soft now Grin

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