WIBU not to have 'kicked off' more?

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

My DP works abroad and we have been separated for a couple of months. We use whatsapp to keep in contact during the week, usually a mix of telling each other what we've been up to, loving texts and frankly filthy ones .

Tonight DP was out with his work colleagues. He barely drinks and had only had a half while everyone else apparently was drunk. (There is a time difference between the country he is in and here.) Anyway, he was texting me in an ordinary way when he suddenly texted 'Thinking about how hard I want to fuck you.' Tbh this wouldn't be an unusual text if we were in a filthy mood but it was a bit odd in context, so I questioned him about it abs it turned out one of his colleagues had told him to text me that, and he had.

I was pissed off to say the least, but had to go as I was at work and couldn't really talk to him about it. I sent him a curt text saying that I'd appreciate it if he texted me his own thoughts rather than those of others, and then had to stop texting for a couple of hours.

When I came back to my phone after work I found several texts apologising, saying that he realised he had upset me and that he had been out of order. I replied saying that yes, I had been upset, explaining why but thanking him for his apology. He reiterated his apology later when we were texting before he went to sleep, and we ended the conversation normally with lots of lovey dovey stuff.

I am now wondering if I should have made more of a fuss? Tbh I was spitting with rage when it first happened, but when I came back to my phone to find that he had apologised, I was mollified. But WIBU? Was this something I should have made more of? What would you have done in this situation?

I actually don't think he would have gone any further with it. He realised he had been a twat and apologised pretty much straight away, then in more detail later.

everyone is allowed an "out of character" moment, I guess

I think he would have showed his mate your reply though.

Your privacy was invaded, your private sex life opened up without your knowing to include some leering colleague.

I would have kicked off. I get it.

Hmm. Maybe I'll ask him when we speak tomorrow. At the weekends we actually get to speak on the phone- yay!- because the time difference isn't so much of a problem when neither of us is working. It's always easier talking than texting.

Say that then- it feels intrusive, you opened up our sex life and acted like an immature twat, I accepted your apology cos I loves ya BUT in hindsight you have been a cockewomble. Oh and LTB

Noooo I don't want to LTB! Don't make me

Put your Big Girl Pants on

Ha

Seriously though, I think I will maybe bring it up again in conversation tomorrow. Not in a 'rehashing the argument' kind of way- just because we normally talk about everything that's on our minds. He is actually one of the kindest and most respectful men I have ever met- tbh I think he realised within about 30 seconds that he had been a bit of a twat- but I'd like to discuss it with him a bit more, I think.