To be annoyed at joggers

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Walking along with dh the other evening, we heard someone shout 'excuse me' from about 10 feet behind us. Turned around to see a jogger bearing down on us, not slowing or changing course, obviously expecting us to step into the road as it's a narrow footpath, so she doesn't have to break her stride.
AIBU to think that if she wants to run on public footpaths, it is her responsibility to run into the road to overtake people, rather than just shouting and expecting others to make way?

I got knocked over by a runner. She was a lot bigger than me, came fast round a corner (in a pedestrianised shopping area ffs), barged in to me, didn't break her stride, didn't stop, didn't even shout an apology. Bitch.

So based on my own personal experience yanbu OP.

Don't tar us all with the same brush! I will step into the road if need be and always thank walkers who move out of my way (though it's a bit of an out of b breath and sweaty thanks!)

As you were walking side by side, YABU.

I get really sick of having to step into the gutter when couples who just cannot be separated they might melt clearly are rude like this on a narrow path.

If anyone were coming up behind you, faster than you, and you were walking side by side, then saying "Excuse me" and expecting you to walk in single file to let them past, is reasonable.

You'd do that if someone were coming towards you, and there is no room on the footpath or pavement for more than 2 people walking abreast, wouldn't you?

Or are you one of those coupes who would melt if they had to be separated?

It's a bit like generalising that all drivers are rude because one driver cut you up. Some are dicks, some aren't, as is true of all large sections of society with one habit or practice in common.

Sweeping generalisations based on one incident are lazy and ignorant.

And my examples apply equally to walking or jogging. The "jogger" label is a red herring.

If you did not step aside when walking two abreast on a path which could only accommodate two abreast (either way- behind you or in front of you) YWBU. And rude.

Personally as a jogger, I would never expect people walking two abreast to make way for me on a footpath - I would always jog around them even if that meant stepping into the road.
Its a bit ridiculous to expect people to be alert to suddenly walking single file from fast moving objects coming up behind them. If someone was coming up behind them at a faster walking pace they would likely step onto the road and move around them. I don't see why jogging is different.

I think what the OP is saying is there is something a little jarring about being (even politely) hallooed from behind and then having to make a split second decision about where to place yourself before you get trampled. I know this because it has pissed me off on several occasions myself, even though I run several times a week.

Thank you Lemony, I think you've got the essence there of what annoyed me. I apologise at the 'Joggers' bit in the title, I didn't mean to encompass all joggers or runners, it was just badly worded. Having read all of the comments and thought about it, I think the thing that annoyed me most was the lack of thanks, or any acknowledgment at all in fact, after we had moved out of her way. I wasn't rude at all, I did move out of the way, to the only place I felt comfortable in order for her to pass, ie the road.

Well I always run around people when I'm out running as I'm the one moving fastest and I don't want to break my stride.

That said, I have a pet peeve about groups of people who take up a whole pavement making it impossible for others to walk around them or pass them going the other way without stepping into busy city roads. I live in busy downtown area and at lunchtime there are always large groups of workers dawdling along trying to decide where to eat lunch taking up the pavements. if I"m walking along in the opposite direction and come cross one of these groups no one in the group ever f*cking makes way so I'm stopped on the pavement facing a wall of people. Inevitably they swarm around me as though I was invisible as they dawdle along their way. It's so rude IMO.

Yes, I do normally move around people if it's safe to do so because it is hard to get yourself heard and if it's a quiet road, there's no safety issue anyway.

I still wouldn't care if someone 'excused me' when I was walking though. I'd just shift and not give it a second thought.

It is tricky when you are alongside busy roads though. I've probably been thought of as shouting before to get people's attention when the reality is I've said excuse me 3 times and whether I slow down or not, I still want space on the pavement rather than stepping in to the busy road.

My new strategy for dealing with big groups coming toward me is to stick to the inside of the path so they have to file in or crash in to me. I'm normally one to take the bit of path nearest the road but I've found with big groups who are reluctant to move that this means you end up pushed in to the road whether it's safe or not.

I have a pet peeve about groups of people who take up a whole pavement making it impossible for others to walk around them or pass them going the other way without stepping into busy city roads

Yes, me too. And then they expect me to thank them if they do bother to let me pass?

I'm always bemused by the way that rude people in this situation act as though it's those they are inconveniencing or blocking who are the rude ones, expecting to be able to walk along the pavement!

Yabu to have a problem with one individual and decide that thousands of other people are annoying because they also run. Is your thinking always this fuzzy?

Its no wonder stress levels are at an all-time high when you have people getting worked up about the most trivial things. The woman was jogging, she said excuse me at least..even if you had to move for her, so what? Id move automatically..it wouldnt even remain in my head as an "incident" tbh. She didnt say thank you, but she did say excuse me to warn of her approach so she isn't rude, just handled a situation in a perhaps different way that you would. In the scheme of life its no biggie. She was doing her thing, you were doing yours

Its fairly entitled to expect people to move out of the way when they are doing nothing wrong. If you are moving faster it is up to you to negotiate obstacles in your path.

It would be different if the op was walking towards the jogger.

I wish my life was so simple that stuff like this would even register as an 'incident' to me.

Its fairly entitled to expect people to move out of the way

It's also fairly entitled to expect to take up the entire breadth of a path or pavement and not leave room for people behind you or in front of you. It's fairly entitled to think that walking side by side with your companion is more important than someone else trying to pass you, from whichever direction.

so its entitled to use something for which it was intended because they are not accommodating you?

The people holding hands and walking down the street are not stopping you from doing what you want to do, but you want them to stop doing what they are doing so you don't have to go a little out of your way.

YANBU.

I had to do this last week the pavement is a couple of feet above the road with a fence roadside the couple where snogging (love that word so old fashioned), they where walking so slowly everyone was having to ask them to move they where just not paying attention and giving everyone dirty looks

The people holding hands and walking down the street are not stopping you from doing what you want to do

They are if other people can't walk past them, from either direction, because the path is only wide enough for 2 people and this couple would melt if they didn't hang onto each other

We have one near us who runs with one of those big pushchairs...in the road toward the oncoming traffic. I saw her ahead and thought wtf was the dozy mare doing oh she will pull onto the pavement soon but she still kept coming toward me.

I couldn't go anywhere as there was a car coming in the opposite direction so ended up stopped in front of her......with her waving her arms at me..

Yabu, if you'd gone into single file she wouldn't have to go so far into the road....

but this isn't about both directions, this is someone from behind who expected some else to get out of their way because they didn't want to go around them.

Couples who dawdle along hand in hand because they're so co-dependent they can't walk on their own are one of my pet peeves. I walk fast and would quite like a share of the pavement on which to walk. Frankly life is too short to walk at 1mph behind people who can't for a few seconds walk side by side because they'll melt (thanks for that one, Chimney). It's entirely possible that I'm an embittered deeply unreasonable baggage but I don't really care. I'd just like people to be a bit aware of their surroundings and not expect other people to walk in the gutter because they've superglued their hands together.

No we didnt have to move into single file, we had to move into the road, as I said above.

You walked two abreast on the road? How odd.

YABU. If someone wants past and politely says excuse me, just temporarily go in single file instead of expecting someone else to risk being run over on the road.

A while after I started running, I realised that the side of the road I ran for most of my regular routes the traffic was always coming from behind me.
So now when I run one of these courses I go the opposite way around & try to make certain that as far as possible the traffic's coming towards me on the side of the road I'm running so if I'm faced with a situation like the OP's I know whether I have to stop or have the option to step out onto the road.