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to fib about slimming world

18 replies

Dublinlass · 07/05/2015 19:56

Joined sw few weeks ago. Heard great things about the group etc. Anyway doing well in it but don't like group, all bit too smiley and happy for me(I'm bit odd). Anyway here's the thing. After first week I haven't stayed for class. I told my husband that I was going to stay and just couldn't face it, thought ah sure I'll just go home and put my four kids to bed as usual and enjoy the madness and chaos and shouting that always happens but then I thought "well maybe tonight I'll just pop up to my local McDonald's and have a coffee while I think about my lovely kids etc" so ended up going up and having lovely coffee and free wifi and when I got home husband asked how it went and I smiled and said great. Well 3 weeks later I'm still doing this and really enjoying my little stolen hour to myself...everyone happy but I know if I told husband he'd said sure you're mad, come home and have a coffee with me(and put mad kids to bed)..so what do I do. Its only one hour on a Thursday..felt slightly guilty when he asked what the girls were like and I said they were lovely(kind of true. The staff in mackers are so friendly and even know my drink now)well..aibu?

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KingJoffreyFanciesDarylDixon · 07/05/2015 19:58

Nah, fib away.

Slimming World is a bit cultish. The staff at McDonalds are far better companions.

FenellaFellorick · 07/05/2015 19:59

Not for wanting an hour to yourself, no.
Not sure why you feel you can't just say look, I don't always fancy staying for the class but I really enjoy just taking this hour once a week so I'm going to carry on doing it. What if he did say come home and you said actually, it's not the coffee but the time out that I value...

WestEast · 07/05/2015 20:00

Do it. Save the little stickers from your cup and you get a free brew. Even more reason to go!

Pastaeater · 07/05/2015 20:02

Sounds very reasonable to me! I love a stolen hour away from the kids!
I used to go to do the supermarket shopping, take a book with me, and then tell DH that there was a terrible queue at the check outs, and that was why I'd been such a long time. (Really spending a peaceful half an hour reading after shopping done, away from screaming toddler).

keepsmiling2015 · 07/05/2015 20:35

Yera why not- enjoy Grin

Christinayangstwistedsister · 07/05/2015 20:43

Enjoy it, just dont eat chips Wink

Purplepoodle · 07/05/2015 21:06

Get weighed and go to the gym. Excuse to be out for 2 hours and help your weight loss

AyMamita · 07/05/2015 21:42

YANBU. And if you have the will power to sit in McDonalds for an hour at dinner time and only have a coffee, you don't need Slimming World anyway!

GraysAnalogy · 07/05/2015 21:43

I wouldn't want to keep lying to be honest, but I appreciate the fact you enjoy the alone time

Nettymaniaa · 07/05/2015 21:44

Go to a different group. I changed groups and the newish group are cracking. They have me in fits of laughter and I only go to get weighed. Top gants. Ps I lost 3 stone and my health problems are much alleviated.

WorraLiberty · 07/05/2015 21:44

No-one likes a liar

Just tell him you don't want to do the class and you want an hour to yourself in McDonalds.

What if someone mentions they saw you there?

ChillySundays · 07/05/2015 21:56

Although I don't blame you I also agree with Netty that you should try another group and another if necessary

FitzgeraldProtagonist · 07/05/2015 22:01

Haha this is quite comic and I can't bring my self to pour sanctimony over your grande deception. Are you losing weight and sticking to it without the group? If so enjoy. Agree re sitting in McDs possibly not massively conducive to achieving goals mind you.

greensnail · 07/05/2015 22:03

I used to go and sit in mcdonalds car park for an hour and use their wifi while dh put the kids to bed. It was great :)

Lipsync · 07/05/2015 22:09

When I used to go to a local gym when I lived in London, on Sarurday mornings a man would come in, in full workout gear, sign in, sit in reception reading the free papers with a takeaway coffee for an hour, then splash water from the water cooler on his face and tee shirt as 'sweat', then depart again, grinning. Every week. I was fascinated.

OP, it worries me that you have to pretend to be doing something self-denying in order to have an hour to yourself to do something innocuous like drink coffee. Why isn't it possible to simply say that's what you want to do, as well as/instead of SW? It's not compulsory to spend all your time with your family...

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Dublinlass · 07/05/2015 22:16

Thanks folks. Only replying now as my battery died when I was McDonalds and suddenly it wasn't as fun being up there twiddling my thumbs for an hour. Confused I'm still losing weight but god its slow, don't think another group will help
Sure the first week after killing myself eating passata and peppers I only lost a half pound and you'd swear it was a stone by the frantic happy clapping from the others.(you don't get that in weight watchers). They all seemed to find this fantastic whereas I was thinking its equivalent to one good bowel movement, they even asked me how i did it? so no, i don't think I can be bothered going to another group. But I probably will stop with the McDonalds, cause tonight i will admit I was a bit tempted by cheese burger :(

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ThisTimeIAmMagic · 07/05/2015 22:19

They sound like a really nice group Confused But do whatever works for you. I would be pissed off if DH lied to me though.

LondonLady29 · 07/05/2015 22:23

You do the right thing YANBU there's no way you can get caught out is there? X

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