So, I'm a religious lurker on MN but never actually posted so bare with me!
Long story short: I've become great friends with someone, who I've known for quite a while but never really got involved with because of a number of factors, including other peoples opinion on them. She has 2 kids, and is a single parent ( her kids are relatively well cared for and I totally understand it must be incredibly hard for her) Her oldest son is the same age as mine give or take a few months and I am desperate for my DD to have friendships with others her own age. My DD was born via emergency section after over a week of labour which led to the me being diagnosed with an incompetent cervix, meaning I have no chance of ever giving birth vaginally.
My issue with this friend is that, I'm heavily pregnant with Ds1 after a long few years of putting it off due to my last traumatic birth experience which I've now had counselling for. And a lot of the tine in conversation she says things like " Its weird how you breastfed Dd but didn't give birth to her the proper, natural way. I always thought only natural-hippy type mums breastfed" and " it's a shame your pussying out of a proper birth again, I bet you'd of felt more like a proper mummy if you just tried it" (She knows my previous experience, I did 8 days of hard labour, on the delivery ward with no pain relief sp hardly pusseyed out! But somehow she forgets that) Its starting to really bring me down, I'm feeling crappy enough about having another C-section, dreading leaving DD, Dreading the pain after and the total reliance on others to help me 'get cleaned up' after to name a few things. But in other ways she can be a great friend and can be a good laugh and ear piece etc. I'm just not sure if mentally id be better off either distancing myself of going NC or something atm. DH is not her biggest fan, neither is anyone we mutually know but for other reasons.