To never want to fall in love again

[WhatAboutThePlant]

Before anyone mentions, I don't want to post this on the Relationships board. But I've been badly hurt by my previous DP, it's actually sent me on a path of self destruction and I feel as though I'd be quite happy if I never fell in love again. He was highly EA but according to fb and the like he's gone on to live a very happy life. I on the other hand ended up with feelings of pure bitterness and anger. Did anyone just decide to never love again and just live their own life?

I am glad it is not just meeeeee!

I'm 40 and opted out of relationships 10 years ago, I love being single!

You can easily have a successful relationship without falling in love. The being in love feeling is caused by annoying, irrational chemical messages within the brain and these can be avoided with a bit of effort.

CuttedUpPear - I guess it depends if on balance you think the 4 good years were worth the pain of what followed.

I had a year long relationship that wrecked my life. Nothing in that relationship justified what happened afterwards. I wish I had never met him and that if I had met him, I'd never got involved. However, I can't go back on what happened. All I can do is think "well that was shit, don't do that again".

The FWB was subsequent to that. It hurt when it ended, and sometimes along the way but the good, fun bits really did outweigh the bad bits. I'm hoping I'm getting better at working out when these things are likely to go irredeemably wrong and extricating myself earlier.

Gabilan not at the moment I don't. I was in it forever.

Cutted I'm feeling very much the same as you, even the timelines are similar. He was meant to be my 'forever' too.
I know one day, after much counselling and a lot of fixing myself, that I probably will date again but I don't think I will ever be able to give as much of myself to anyone again.

I can completely relate. It just knocks you sort of sideways. I don't think I'll ever be as trusting or loving again. Not sure if this means I'll miss out but to be honest I don't think I could go through it again.