To not loan out DS bike?

[Mrsstarlord]

DS1 has a friend who I suspect has some issues and isn't terribly reliable shall we say (think encouraging others to break rules, lying, pushing boundaries and breaking stuff). Have had to stop DS2 playing with him as he has learning difficulties and is vulnerable, he comes back in tears every time.
DS1 is out playing with friend and has come back to say can friend use DS2's bike as he doesn't have one. Have said no as a) I don't trust friend to look after it but b) and mainly I don't think it's fair that DS2 misses out on playing with them but then they want his bike.
AIBU?

YANBU, although the ages of the children might be relevant.

DS1 is 11, DS2 is 10 (but with his LD is developmentally around 6 or 7 at most)

I would say no- but if ds2 is prepared to lend his bike to ds1 then ds1 can lend his to the friend if he wants to.

DS1 suggested that, DS2 stayed quiet. I think I may be a bit unreasonable as I feel sorry for DS2 staying at home with us so I think that may be my main influence rather than logic

YANBU and need to protect your son from being taken advantage of. I guess you're lucky he asked.

Yanbu. Friend will either damage the bike or lose it, based on previous experience. You are the adult, you decide.

I would have said "no" as well. It's DS2's bike not common property to be loaned out to all-comers. Especially an all-comer who can't be relied on to be kind to DS2.

Yanbu. It's your ds's bike not his.

YANBU, it's not his property to lend and I'm always reluctant to let my DC lend stuff anyway, certainly nothing as expensive as a bike.

From what you have said it seems the friend is not very kind to your DS2 - so why should he lend him his bike? If you want to borrow things from people you should be nice to them.

Definitely no to lending something as expensive as a bike, especially if you're not there to supervise. A bit different if he wanted to borrow an old bike in the garage that had been outgrown, but not your DS2's current bike.