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To think my partner is a twat for saying this?

26 replies

Frenchseam · 02/05/2015 23:36

So we're out for dinner in local pub. Not a frequent event as we have small children. House wine is crap at fiver a glass, I go to order another at just over £6 a glass, and I get a diatribe from him about how overpriced the wine is, they're skinning us alive, this isn't exactly the ritz, what's the markup - are they insane, are you really going to order that?? Blah blah blah....
In my book that's bad manners, to make the other diner feel bad about their choices. What do you think? We had a massive argument which totally spoiled the night. Surely it's just rude to do that. AIBU????

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AlpacaMyBags · 02/05/2015 23:39

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MrsTerryPratchett · 02/05/2015 23:41

Are you on an extremely tight budget where a quid will make the difference? Also, what was he drinking?

Sandbrook · 02/05/2015 23:42

That's poor form. Maybe something else going on in his head and this is a burst. Pretty lame burst though.
Sorry to hear your night was ruined

MajesticWhine · 02/05/2015 23:43

Very rude. Especially if you don't get to go out much together. I assume he had the drink of his choice?

MeggyMooAndTinkerToo · 02/05/2015 23:44

He'd have told to wind his neck in if I were you. When I go out I drink what the hell I like if I'm not driving. Likewise, if I'm driving I don't care what DH drinks.

Unless your drinking £6 glasses of wine and you can't afford it I don't see why he should complain!

MeggyMooAndTinkerToo · 02/05/2015 23:45

have been told

TropicalHorse · 02/05/2015 23:46

Yep, twat.
Would he do it to a friend? A colleague? His mother?
So why is it ok to do it to you??

minesapintofwine · 03/05/2015 00:12

He was a twat but having a huge argument and it ruining the night seems extreme imo.

Pipbin · 03/05/2015 00:16

What was he drinking?
A bottle of beer from the supermarket is around £1.50 a bottle. I bet it was about double that there. I also expect that you could have bought the ingredients for your meal cheaper too.
I do see his point, £6 is a lot of money, but there is no need to go on about it.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 03/05/2015 00:27

I think that the whole night was a waste of money as it ended badly with him starting an argument over nothing.

Is he always so argumentive after drinking

caroldecker · 03/05/2015 00:31

I think the point is, beer is about 2x supermarket prices. Wine at £6 a glass is £36 a bottle - so a 6x multiple?

GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/05/2015 00:35

YANBU. Everybody knows drinks are where they make their money and if you go out anywhere it's costly. If he wanted a cheap night you should have gone to MacDonalds.

Topseyt · 03/05/2015 00:36

It sounds expensive, that much I get, but he was very rude to go on about it in such a way.

I guess money is a bit tight, as often happens when you have small children, but that isn't an excuse. Did he choose the cheapest possible food and drink himself or did he just expect that of you?

AuntyMag10 · 03/05/2015 00:37

Yanbu, he behaved very badly and how embarrassing too!
Does he really think £6 is expensive?

AuntyMag10 · 03/05/2015 00:40

Sorry meant to say does he think £6 from £5 is an expensive jump. He spoilt an entire and rare evening out for a pound.

olgaga · 03/05/2015 00:50

Wine by the glass is always super expensive, but at £5/6 it's usually a large 250ml glass. there are only 3 of those in a bottle. And a bottle will usually be only £3-4 cheaper than buying by the glass.

Next time go with a good friend you can share a bottle with and have a nice time talking about how you LTB.

shewept · 03/05/2015 07:13

Pubs tend to make more money in drink than food. Of course there is a big mark up on it. They have to cover all the costs including staff, glasses, cleaning, the costs of running the building. Its not just the cost of the alcohol.

He was being a twat. And ti be honest I wouldn't go out with someone who acted like that. Me and dh go out very infrequently as I when we do I would prefer to be able to have what I want (with in reason no £200 bottles of champagne or anything) without worrying.

If we went out more often we would have to stick to a budget. So we go out less often and spend a bit more.

Original poster
Frenchseam · 03/05/2015 09:49

Thanks very much everyone. I'm still slightly fuming. We are really worried about cash at the mo so it does explain some of the twattishness but not all. Maybe what we need is a happy meal. Angry

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catgirl1976 · 03/05/2015 09:51

I'd have ordered a bottle and drunk it whilst glaring.

He's not wrong the mark up on drink is expensive, but there's no need to point it out.

BallsforEarrings · 03/05/2015 11:16

YANBU - he ruined your rare treat Hmm

I would be telling him i will be having my rare treats with a friend in future so I can relax and enjoy it properly!

AlternativeTentacles · 03/05/2015 11:30

Maybe if you are worried about cash - not eating out in the first place is somewhere to start.

AnyFucker · 03/05/2015 11:32

What ?

he just noticed the massive mark up on drinks in eating establishments ?

is he a bit slow on the uptake ?

Moln · 03/05/2015 11:34

Was wine the issue because he wasn't the on drinking it?

what price was whatever he was drinking?

Trills · 03/05/2015 11:34

Twattish thing to say.

If you go out to a place, you know the sort of price things are, you have decided that you ARE willing to pay that in order to have a nice time.

To try to be fair, saying a twattish thing once or twice does not make you "a twat". Even non-twats say twattish thing sometimes.

UncleT · 03/05/2015 13:39

He is fully out of order. Even if he thought it, making a huge fuss and spoiling the night is not on.

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