To feel a bit upset about this?

[Seeker101]

In our friendship group, we are all around the same age although a variety of married/single/ with kids etc.
A member of the group turned the same age as I did last month this weekend (not a special birthday ) and one of the group has organised a surprise meal at a restaurant with a cake, balloons etc. I think it's lovely and of course I am going along but feel a little hurt that I didn't get even so much as a card from her and then she's asking us to chip in for a cake etc for another member of the group and making a big effort to organise it all.
I know this a very small and ridiculous problem but it's taking my mind of bigger issues. Feel free to tell me IABU.

Yeah they knew - I had Facebook messages etc

Usually only if it's a special birthday but is year it wasn't!

Is there a reason for all the effort? Has the birthday girl been through a rough time etc? Does she just like big bashes, maybe you don't? Are they especially close within the group I.e more friendly and closer to each other so the friend wanted to make an effort? Though that would be favouritism and tbh I do think it's odd to go to all that for a non special age iyswim? (that's why I ask if there is any other reason for it).

In the nicest possible way op I think yabu. To be upset. This is a small unintentional thing. I presume you are invited so not been left out and your friends want you there. Just think meh, could have done that for me, go and drink copious amounts of wine and have a good time.

Put some plans in motion for your next birthday

Cross posts Euphemia sorry!

Is the other Birthday woman single, and you married/ in a LTR?

If so, maybe your friends are thinking your OH will make your Birthday special for you but the other woman has no one but her friends to make a fuss of her.

No, she's newly engaged and very happy.
Thanks, I'll stop moaning and just have a good time and get drunk.

Maybe the friend that arranged the meal etc is 'auditioning' to be bridesmaid if your other friend is newly engaged?

Oh Rushy has it. It's competition time!

I don't think yabu to expect a card from your friend. What a thoughtless friend she is! Could be a sucking up to the other friend for some reason, thing.

A belated happy birthday to you! Remind yourself of the cards etc you did get.

Just go, have a good time, then when you're all leaving say, "oh that was a really good night, we should have done it last month for mine too.. Whose is next?"

Is it partly to celebrate the engagement also?

Birthday girl has something on party organiser...party organiser sucks up big time to keep birthday girl shtum. Now... what could birthday girl possibly know to be worth so much adoration?

Could the organizer be v envious of the newly engaged very happy DF and, to disguise this, is making the party because she is pretending she is happy for her when she is, in fact v jealous or maybe she's shagged her fiancée
or maybe I have a warped mind!!

ignore above- dh sleeping on sofa opposite and Ive had a bit of wine and I watch too much telly

Naked pictures! The answer to things like this is always: naked pictures. Just be glad it's not you, OP.

Ignore my above not Norah. Ok Im going to bed now!

@ Cruik