Buggies on buses

[SleeplessSeattle]

This is a bit trivial but it provoked such a reaction that I think I might have BU. I was waiting for the bus this morning at a bus stop (out of London, only person there) and as the bus was approaching I stood up but was still under the shelter as it was windy, and another woman with a buggy came over and stood in front of me waiting for the bus (she had just arrived at the bus stop). The bus stopped and only had one buggy space and as she was about to get in I said "excuse me but I was here first, and there's only one space, I really need to get this bus" and she seemed shocked and said actually she did mind but didn't do anything and didn't move so I went on the bus. As I went to pay she swore (a lot at me and was very verbally annoyed) but I was already on the bus by this point so I must admit I just sat down and ignored her. She was shouting after the bus as it drove off and I'm pretty sure I was getting disapproving looks from others. So WIBU? I do t think it's relevant but I was late for a train which the bus was to the train station I know it was rude, but then she was red pushing in (I think?)

I can't bloody see why it had to be you or her, and I can't see why you couldn't have helped each other out. I don't drive and am often battling with two kids on public transport and the lack of unhelpful sods about is depressing. But generally the mums give each other hand.

Okay she was totally in the wrong for swearing and having a go. Not very adult. But before it got to that point, why didn't you offer to hold her sprog while she folded her buggy or something? You were no better tbh.

I don't know about OP but I wouldn't particularly feel like helping someone who was already rude enough to try and take the only spot on the bus and then respond in an arsey manner when OP spoke up about it. Perhaps she would have been helped if she didn't have an attitude problem.

I know this is a bit of a non issue. I'm just a bit sleep deprived and thought I had missed something as she was so rude afterwards. I tend to over think stuff like this. It hadn't even occurred to me to help her I'm going to be honest, she was with a group of 3/4 other people.

This happened to me the other day without the swearing as we were all polite but we both had bugaboo bees, 1 x baby each, 1x toddler each- so folded these buggies would still take up loads room an we'd be juggling 4 kids. Umbrella style buggies I agree with folding where possible.

If those with her had any tincture of decency they would have helped you both fold and loaded your bags, OP, some other passenger would heve helped you unload, and her too if need be.

Yanbu OP and don't need to make any excuses. She was rude, what on earth made her think she had the right to the place more than you. As you left her scowling and swearing you should have gave her a nice cheery wave. Ignorant bitch.

YANBU. Next time you encounter such rudeness, smile and blow them a kiss.

It is not the wheelchair space.

It IS a wheelchair space. Legally fully a wheelchair space.

How many times do selfish people need to be told this?

up maybe it's different on your buses but the buses here have about a 4m long area for wheelchairs/buggies but can only take one wheel chair at a time - so I'm pretty sure the rest of the space is just for those with luggage/bags/buggies etc.

Up Our buses specifically say the space is for wheelchairs or buggies, and could buggies please be folded if a wheelchair user needs the space. It is not a wheelchair-only space. Not legally or any other way.

Of course you were not being unreasonable. The order goes: wheelchair users and SEN buggy users, newborns, then able bodied babies/toddlers.
You usually find the 'fold it' brigade are from a generation when it wasn't an option. I think the recognition that folding it disadvantages many women with shopping, many children etc is a step in the right direction for women's rights. It would put a lot of people off leaving their immediate surroundings if they had to juggle baby, shopping etc. Yes, yes you all did it back in the bad old days but like many other things that disadvantaged, disadvantaged women it has been improved.

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