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To get extremely irritated by my friend's annoying habit?

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CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 18:21

I have a very good friend who I've known most of my life. We're very close, can talk to each other about anything, even things we strongly disagree on. We're both single parents, each have a daughter and we spend a lot of time together. I love her dearly.

Her daughter is a little over 2 and is a fairly normal 2 year old. But since she started talking, my friend has started with Facebook posts about what her daughter says. She's a very regular FB poster, (7-8 posts a day) whereas I'm quite reserved with it and use it mainly for chat in private groups.

What's really started irritating me is that from what she's 'recounting' in her posts, you'd think her DD was writing sonnets. Things like "oh how cute is X? Was just washing the dishes and she came in and said:" followed by several long and complex sentences, often with fairly long words in. As I've said, I spend a lot of time with my friend and her daughter and her DD, like most children her age, can say 2-3 word simple sentences.

Perhaps some people would consider me a bad friend for letting something like this irritate me but I think it's because I feel like this one thing is something I can't really talk to her about. I can't exactly say "X isn't nearly as advanced with her speaking as your FB posts suggest, why do you feel the need to exaggerate her abilities so much?"

WIBU to try to approach this with her? Some people have started making snide remarks about it in front of me but the most I can do is ask them not to say things like that while I'm around because what they're saying it completely true.

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BartholomewCrouch · 01/05/2015 18:27

Acknowledge your irritation to yourself or some one very close to you (eg your mum).

But DO NOT bring it up with her or get into discussions with others about it.

It's OK to find even dear friends irritating, but not OK to fall out over it by pointing it out and even worse to getting involved in any general bitching with others.

My dearest friend irritates me madly sometimes. I moan to DH but would never say a word against her to anyone one else.

and would never risk a fall out over her minor flaws.

Your friend just thinks she's being cute and getting it wrong.

ATerribleBeauty · 01/05/2015 18:52

It's on Faceache. Unfollow her ( or whatever you have to do to stop the pain)
Never talk about it in real life to her. It's the law.
Or you could kill her? Whatever works best for you.

IonaMumsnet · 01/05/2015 19:58

Evening all. We're going to move this over to AIBU in a moment as the OP posted in the wrong place accidentally.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:01

Thanks Iona, was just coming back to let people know Smile

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Handywoman · 01/05/2015 20:04

Some people's insecurities seem to spew out solely via their FB posts.

I have a friend who was in a relationship with a Psychopath who made her every waking moment a nightmare. She constantly posted about what a blissful time they were having on weekends away, and how 'blessed' she was to be spending time with him, how in love she was, etc. go figure....

Unfollow her. Otherwise you may end up spoiling a beautiful friendship by gauging her eyes out...

CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:04

Barty, thanks for your advice. I suppose I really must just be quietly irritated.

My mum is the kind who can't keep her mouth shut so is probably not viable for venting but it's definitely helped seeing I'm not the only one whose close friends regularly irritate her!

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SilverBirch2015 · 01/05/2015 20:10

Why not just hide/not follow her posts for a while, just to stop it irritating you and spoiling your friendship. I have a friend who is all Lol and spiritual messages about her "kidz" drives me bonkers to be honest. I just hide her posts and once or twice a week go to her wall and like a few of her less irritating ones to avoid her thinking I am avoiding her on Fb.

We all have flaws and foibles, can you look on it with a bit of wry affection maybe?

CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:20

I think unfollowing is a good suggestion, thank you! Though it'd feel a bit nasty, it's infinitely better than saying something to her if she catches me on an off day.

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CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:22

I was at first Silver. I think I crossed the line into irritated when she started doing it much more frequently and when others started to notice and mock her a bit.

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revealall · 01/05/2015 20:30

I had to unfollow a good friend who posted endless shared messages about lost children and dogs. Everyday.

All fine until she quizzed me about about a post she'd written and people's comments about it. We weren't anywhere I could have a sneaky look and she knew I had been on Facebook earlier. I fudged a comment but I'm sure she'll work out soon I don't follow her anymore..

Time for the truth or what else?

CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:43

It hadn't even occurred to me that she might realise reveal Confused She does talk to me a lot about what people comment to her posts (she's Facebook mad)

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