To tell dh no he can't have friends over

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dh just rang to say Pete (not real name) is coming for tea.
We have 5 dc, various bedtimes, big age range.
Dh friend from overseas has been camping in front room all week
For 3 days dh friends wife, grown up dd and boyfriend were here.
Day before yesterday a different friend appeared for tea.
I'm sick of it.
I've said no sorry, go for a takeaway. I've had enough, is this BU?

Sounds a bit much. Your house has a revolving door or something? Do you have the word 'Hostal' outside?

Jeez, YADNU. You're not a hotel FFS

When I read your title I thought "YABU - how controlling". But…bloody hell! Are your running a Hilton or something?!

i think it's perfectly reasonable under the circs you describe to ask him to meet his friend out of the house.

I think they assume because I'm sahm I have time and grace to bloody feed them. I want my house back.

Yanbu!

Why is DH's friends' wife visiting him at your house?
Where is she staying?

Sounds like Piccadilly Circus round yours, i'd be saying no!

Tell him it's fine, then you go out for the evening and leave them all to it!

Friends wife came from overseas for shorter visit with their dd and boyfriend.
I want to cook something quick and easy, feed dc and I'm finished for the evening.

Thanks everyone I considered phone dh and say it's ok perhaps I'm being unfair. It's seems in not.

Say "sounds lovely, dear, what are you cooking for him?"

Yanbu.

Chicken, I think it's about time you put your feet up and someone cooked for you! (or at least got you a takeaway and cleared up afterwards)

You're a pissing saint!

YAbu, he can have any of his friends he wants round to his house.

But he then has to deal with them and that does not mean he doesn't deal with his usual responsibilities as a result.

In other words, his friends, his extra work unless he has prior arrangement and agreement with you that you will help.

If you do have a sign with the name "Hostel" outside, maybe change it to "Hostile"?

Why is it considered 'controlling' for one person to refuse another person's wish to have friends round to their shared home?

You might have to cater, it could disrupt your children's bedtimes and it might mean you being turfed out of your own living room where you wanted to relax and watch your own tv.

Surely, unless both agree, if you want to see friends you go out? (unless you're lucky enough to have an extra sitting room)

YANBU but I hope you are OK with him coming home unreasonably late and the worse for wear. I hope he is pulling his weight in accommodating all his house guests and is equally accommodating of your friends and family and DC sleepover parties.
This is why I live in an open plan flat with no spare rooms! I am no good at entertaining!

YANBU.

You're DH doesn't seem to realise he's taking the piss. Maybe you need to tell him?

Thats too much.
My dh knows I'm unlikely to say no,but I must be consulted beforehand,so I have the option.

Are you or your husband South African? You are describing my life, I'm convinced I'm in a Lonely Planet Guide somewhere. It's very intrusive and YANBU

His guest his job to feed and look after him.

Yanbu, I feel exhausted for you reading you had 5 DC goodness knows how you manage seeing to constant stream of visitors!

Thanks for your messages, I feel more confident when talking to him about this later.
Nursey, how funny, I think I will use that line later, "dh have you entered us into the tourism guide as a free hostel?"
I could start serving very very small portions at mealtimes, and cough on their food, might make them think twice about coming back too soon.

DH can bloody well cook or buy the food. He should be arranging with you first if okay for people to stay, not just picking up strays and expecting you to do all the hardwork while he enjoys!

Lol, I wouldn't punish them, I'd share out your DHs portion and give him toast!