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AIBU?

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To wish people would have a bit of patience in check out queues

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balletnotlacrosse · 01/05/2015 12:18

Don't get me wrong. I have no patience myself with people who wait until all their groceries are scanned before packing them, or who spend ages rooting for their purse, or who stand gossiping with the assistant when there's a queue behind them.

But some people are ridiculous; huffing and puffing because someone isn't packing as quickly as they'd like, or coming up behind them at the self check out and putting down their basket before the person ahead of them is finished packing and collecting their change, or starting to unload their stuff onto the belt before the person ahead of them is finished.

At the supermarket this morning the woman ahead of me was having a blue fit because two of the self checkouts weren't working and the person at the third one had to wait for the assistant to come over and help her with something. She was giving out and tutting and really embarrassing the other shopper.

AIBU to think these are some rude impatient knobs who think they mustn't be held up for a nano second in their busy important lives should just stay at home and shop on line with no human beings to annoy them?

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MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 05/05/2015 10:14

Self service tills are the work of the devil. I have no patience at all but even I would rather wait in a queue to be served by a human than use one of those. The repetative 'PLEASE PLACE YOUR ITEM IN THE BAGGING AREA" And then it desides it doesn't want to accept that item and tells you it's not recognised it so you have to wait for an assistant . HOW THE FUCK SO, YOU PILE OF SHITE!! You've just scanned it through how can you not recognise it.

Grrrrr!!!

bigbluebus · 05/05/2015 10:33

I mostly shop in Lidl now so no room for slow packers as your groceries juts fall off the end and there are none of those annoying self service tills.

In my local store, I find that the worst offenders for impatience seem to be older people who probably aren't working to a tight time schedule other than wanting to be back home to get lunch on the table for 1.00pm as that what time we always have it .

I did once use my arm to slide the shopping of the man behind me back to make room for me to get the rest of my trolley load onto the belt after he rudely started loading before I had finished or before I had put the marker across. I am not normally so rude but he just wound me up that day.

The old folk always huff and puff in there because they've only got a basket when I've got a trolley. I usually let one person go in front of me if they only have a few items but if I did it for everyone I would never get served. If they don't like the fact that there are no self-service tills or basket only tills then they should go to Tesco or Sainsburys where there are - not huff and puff at the other customers in Lidl and Aldi.

KindergartenKop · 05/05/2015 10:43

A few weeks ago I was in sainsbos using the self service tills, there were plenty free. I had scanned my shopping and paid and I was trying to find space for it under my giant double pushchair full of screaming infants. Some fucking woman decides to plonk her basket down on the till, despite there being about 3 free tills!

I didn't rush.

Sparklingbrook · 05/05/2015 11:31

I just have to zone out and ignore everyone if i am at the supermarket. I always pull my trolley behind me at the checkout to keep a distance too.

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balletnotlacrosse · 05/05/2015 11:37

The self service tills are the worst for rude pushy behaviour. I too have had the people hovering over me, putting their basket down before I'm finished etc. Even had one mare sigh and moan because I reached across her to find my receipt. I mean, how dare I want to check that I had been charged correctly when she was obviously so busy and important. Maybe they should have closed the supermarket just for her

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balletnotlacrosse · 05/05/2015 11:38

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MmeMorrible · 05/05/2015 11:40

Scan and shop is the way to avoid queue stress. Pack your own bags as you shop and then smile benevolently as you sail past all the stressed out shoppers queuing and then piling their goods onto the conveyor belts.

Sparklingbrook · 05/05/2015 11:42

I love Scan and shop. But I hate Tesco.

Stringmeupscotty · 05/05/2015 11:50

I go extra slow for huffers and puffers whilst pretending not to have noticed their impatience.

My aunty is the best at dealing with these people partly because she has serious attitude and partly because she has no shame.

Last week a woman was huffing and puffing behind us in Tesco so my aunty slow turned to her and said 'Are you Barak Obama?'. The woman said 'Errm, no '. My aunty said 'Then why are you in such a hurry?'. The woman was .

A few months ago, she turned to a woman ramming the trolley right up to her 'You'll have a heart attack if you keep up your fidgeting and riling'.

Sparklingbrook · 05/05/2015 11:52

A man behind megrabbed me by the elbows and pushed me towards a till once in WHSmith. The cashier was just opening it and hadn't called down for anyone yet.

Dionysuss · 05/05/2015 11:54

DH still talks about his run in with a lady in m&s who wanted to push in with a loaf of bread, despite the fact DHs shopping was already being scanned and bagged. She stood next to him so close she was nudging his elbow. She then pushed him was he walking away.

Momagain1 · 05/05/2015 11:55

Oh Sparkling, he so needed to have you scream as if he assaulted you! How dare he!

EmeraldThief · 05/05/2015 11:57

You don't need a credit card to shop online, what a silly thing to say. I don't have one, I just use my debit card or paypal. Every single person with a bank account has a debit card.

ClarasZoo · 05/05/2015 11:57

I pack at my own pace and don't care about the people huffing behind me. I have never had anyone actually say - "can't you go any faster?" but if they ever do I have my answer ready - "no, but I can go slower."

Sparklingbrook · 05/05/2015 11:57

Do you know I was so shocked I said and did nothing Mom, it wasn't until after i was all 'WTF that was really out of order'. I swore from then on nobody would touch me ever again.

AliceLidl · 05/05/2015 12:05

I hate the conveyor belts when they leave them running but nobody is in front of you.

You get one thing on them, it's halfway down by the time you've got the next thing on there. Then by the time you've got the third or fourth thing on it, the belt has stopped because your first item has reached the front.

And then the checkout person leaves it there, so you can't fit anything else on the end and have to kind of fill in the gaps.

I like it when it's not moving and you get to fill the back bit and then they move it down and you carry on filling behind your own shopping.

SomewhereIBelong · 05/05/2015 12:12

Every single person with a bank account has a debit card

I think you need to check YOUR facts before calling others silly. That simply is NOT the case.

GetMeFlamed · 05/05/2015 12:17

I was in Morrisons a few weeks ago and stood at the top of the conveyer belt waiting to unload my basket as the woman in front of me was very old and was unloading her trolley one item at a time. She seemed quite frail and I didn't want to make her think I was rushing her. The checkout lady was patiently scanning each item and there was a gap on the belt but itwasn't busy so I waited. I would have helped but was trying to keep ds from running off. Anyway, I was just waiting.

Suddenly a woman with a full trolley zipped in front of me and quickly started unpacking! I said "oh sorry, I'm next in the queue" she gave me the death glare, said "oh fine then" put her stuff back in the trolley but kept looking at me like this the whole time. And she was muttering stuff behind me too.

It wasn't until I left the shop I suddenly thought "that woman tried to push in front of me!" It was a proper slow realisation like kicking Bishop Brennan up arse style.

I just couldn't believe anyone could be so blatantly impatient and rude. First time it's happened to me.

AliceLidl · 05/05/2015 12:19

Sparkling a similar thing happened to me when I was pregnant with DS.

I had a massive bump, so big that a woman having twins felt sorry for me when we were chatting at the doctors one day, and I was just getting into a fairly crowded lift when a man came rushing up being me and pushed me forward saying "come on love, move up, make some room!"

Only there was no room, because even though the lift was massive, it was full of giant Ikea trolleys, flatpack stuff, and my stomach, which was developing it's own gravitational pull by that point. Small things would orbit me if I got too close to them.

He actually pushed me bump first into some big flatpack thing someone else was buying, and then DH said "if you push my pregnant wife one more time I'll rip your arm off" and the lift went very, very quiet.

I was like you though, too shocked to speak, but regardless of baby bump, how dare he think he could just grab someone and push them? He didn't push DH or the man at the other side of me, so I think it was just he felt he had a right to put his hands on a small woman and move her out of his way.

That was a bad trip to Ikea though. Later on as I waddled slowly to one of those stock check screen things a girl of about nine or ten ran up and banging into me, trying to beat me to it I think.

She came from behind and off to the right of me, and she reached it a split second after me, which was the first time I was aware of her even being there.

She ran off again and came back with some whopping great teenage boy about a foot taller than me, and then a woman came after them, also taller than me, with the girl telling them I'd pushed her out of the way, and they all stood really close to me to intimidate me into moving.

I was at that bit of the pregnancy where everything upset me, so I waddled away again and sat on a bench and cried until DH found me, then felt too daft to tell him I'd been picked on by a little girl.

Mamus · 05/05/2015 12:21

"Every single person with a bank account has a debit card"

Well, that's tosh.

Sparklingbrook · 05/05/2015 12:26

I think a lot of current accounts allow you to have a debit card if you want one, but it depends on the account.

Alice-we will be ready if it ever happens again.

AliceLidl · 05/05/2015 12:30

Absolutely we will.

In fact I'm so cross now thinking about these pushers that I'm half inclined to go and stand in someone's way right now, just so I can tell them off if they push me

ElleyBear13 · 05/05/2015 12:39

Ughh! I hate this. Especially on bank holidays/christmas/easter etc every seems to get huffy and impatient, i find in asda (or non aldi/lidle supermarket) people behind wont give you time to pack your bags or even load your shopping on the belt. On a non supermarket note i did go to the walk in doctors yesterday, and the four people in front of me insisted i go straight to the front of the que (25 weeks pregnant look like im about to drop!) which was suprising and restored my faith in kind people!

Momagain1 · 05/05/2015 12:41

Every single person with a bank account has a debit card

I think you need to check YOUR facts before calling others silly. That simply is NOT the case.

Even so, doubtful that every single huffer and puffer falls into the category of being unable to shop online. Either way, there is never need to huff and puff at someone who had the bad luck to get in front of them.

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